Submitted by 3rdChapter on 10/26/2011.
Is there any hope of a husband with ADHD and a wife with OCD maiking it through? I just got diagnosed and my wife is extremely angry with me. Not sure it is even worth salvaging. I want to do everything I can to manage my ADHD and work out our relationship.
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Submitted by ADD Husband on
I think you are doing what you can by being consistent with your treatment and trying to better yourself. You can only control the changes you are making in yourself. In the beginning when I started treatment I was doing it for the wrong reasons. I learned very quickly that getting to a better place in myself didn't mean that my marriage would get better or the circumstances surrounding it.
My wife has issues of her own related to control that stand alone and outside of my issues and ADD. You can only lead by example and keep getting better and doing better. Do it for you, do it for your kids and for the future. In the long run regardless of whether your wife returns or not you will find happiness if you stay the course. You can be a great father, a great provider, a consistent peer at work and life. Only your wife can decide to fix her issues and decide to meet you in the middle for the relationship.
My wife and I are still together in the same but nothing has changed regarding our relationship for the better. I have accepted that the future of our relationship is out of my control. I will be the best version of me that I can for the kids and our future. I will be a good partner to my wife so that she knows I want her but the crossroad will come one day. Today we are better parents together than we would be apart. I am willing to invest myself 100% in both the kids and the relationship until that is no longer the truth if we continue on the same path we are on today.
I wish you the best in your coming days. Take it a day at a time and you'll look back on a week and feel better, a month and then years. Regardless of circumstance do your best, stay consistent in your treatment and do it for you.