Three long years and very slight improvement? ok maybe on my behalf,i had to learn "his way" follow "his way" or else i would be running out of labels...Fact remains,(HE WOULD NEVER CHANGE)...In order for my marriage to work i had to change my way of understanding to value his,my way of motivation to stand along side him,my way of every single thing to accommodate his way..
I lost the one friend i had,losing the one family member i was trying to rekindle with and also losing my head over what was suppose to be a combine relationship,joining in two's but always staying at one...ME!..I AM ALONE! there would be no husband to help me through anything that is a family task,or friend task for that matter..
I am not allowed to hang with friends at bars,not allowed to hang with girlfriends as they would influence me.Not allowed to do nothing without permission or proper consent..
Hello! am i married to Mr.Narcissis...yes!!!!!!...def...well,he goes on his fishing trips with his buddies while the little wife have to stay at home and play dolly house...
The minute i flip out,the second i stand up for my rights,my marriage would end..I stated in a previous conversation with him about family and the importance of it,friends and how i miss them..He went on to say:
"""I AM YOUR ONLY FRIEND,AND FAMILY ARE BACK STABBERS..'''''....The world revolves around his pathetic needy ways..I am sickkkkkkk to my stomach..Had i not really love him i'd begone a long time now..Have i had it up to ''''HERE''' a few more rounds then maybe i'll be gone....
lovehurts....
Saying this gently.... This
Submitted by redhead1017 on
Saying this gently....
This sounds like more than ADD or ADHD. Not letting you have friends, not allowed to hang out with people, not allowed to do anything without permission, isolating you from friends and family.....
Lots of really red flags here.
Agreed. You have many times
Submitted by smilingagain on
Agreed.
You have many times come here and said it is the last straw. Some of your stories about this man have been absolutely sickening. At a certain point, you have to say enough is enough. My advice is for you to read through all your old posts. This isn't going to change. Perhaps enough is now enough? Just a thought. I wish you luck.
I agree. But...
Submitted by lovehurtsalotwi... on
Permanant Change
Submitted by c ur self on
The good life you are looking for can only be experienced from the inside out...Jesus will bring permanent change...and unlike people, you can count of his Love...
Not sure I follow
Submitted by Heather1026 on
Have you or your husband been diagnosed w ADHD? I looked thru your posts and it doesn't look like it. You have self diagnosed him with everything. And I am very concerned about your mental health. Take care of your issues. Let the husband take care of himself.
Not a healthy relationship
Submitted by MelissaOrlov on
As you describe it in this post, you have given up yourself, perhaps completely. You are more a slave in this relationship than an independent person.
I strongly urge you to get a therapist and explore how to live as either a stronger partner or an independent non-partner. One of the things you will likely want to discuss is why it is that you have allowed yourself to get to this point. Is it fear of retribution? Part of your past? Concern that your partner will beat you? Low self-esteem?
In any event, what you have described here, at least, will not end well for you. Please consider taking control of your life again...only you can do this. (i.e. though it sounds a little harsh, don't blame your partner if you don't...) And, if you haven't read it yet, read the book CoDependent No More by Melodie Beatty. It will give you some insight into your situation, I'm guessing.
Lemon 25?
Submitted by Heather1026 on
Why are you also lemon 25? You need to see a psychiatrist soon! Lots of red flags...