The newsletter talked about being disconnected.  That you have to share your thoughts, feelings, etc with your partner.  But of course you have to feel safe in your relationship to do so.  I don't think I feel "safe" in my relationship.  If I share my feelings to my ADHD spouse, I either get yelled at, ignored, or made fun of.  If I ask my spouse's opinion about something, I get a sarcastic remark in return.  It all makes for very difficult communication.