I haven't been on this forum in about six months. Why? Because my husband started taking Adderall. He liked it. He felt good. The side effects were minimal. I was trying so hard to be positive and look forward to a better future for our marriage. But........it didn't turn out that way.
My husband's ADHD presents itself in the form of hyperfocus of monumental proportions. He is highly driven and nothing stops him from reaching his goals, least of all a wife or a marriage. Well, the adderall made him even more hyperfocused. He worked even longer hours and became even more detached emotionally. With the increased detachment came increased narcissistic tendencies. His memory got worse, at least on topics concerning me. He even started to become overtly mean to me and accused me of doing things that I didn't do.
I finally talked to him and told him that our situation was getting much worse. Thankfully, he believed me and agreed to quit taking the Adderall. Now he's back to his normal.
I'm reminded of the old sayings: "Be careful what you wish for." and "You should've left well enough alone."
Really made me second guess myself here
Submitted by mindquad on
https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/baby-girl-due-soon-symptoms-flaring - happened to be right before you posted yours. Can you share more about what your husband has tried to mitigate his symptoms besides Adderall?
He doesn't have a long
Submitted by Hopeful Heart on
He doesn't have a long history of struggling with ADHD. He briefly tried Vyvanse and Straterra. Both of those medications resulted in physical side effects that were dangerous or very unpleasant. Adderall seemed to be the ticket. I think he liked the Adderall because it calmed his brain and made him even more focused and productive at work. But, it made our personal problems even worse. You're type of ADHD sounds very different than my husband's. Adderall might be perfect for you. Everyone is different.
It sounds like you've done a lot of work to make your situation better. I want to encourage you not to give up now. The hardest parts are behind you. You've admitted that there is a problem and you're seeking out help. You've found a counselor that is a good fit for you and your wife. You know which medication works best for you. I realize dealing with "the system" can be a nightmare. Your wife needs you to be a support system for her right now. Hang in there.
Congratulations on the new baby!!!!