We currently have 2 cats. I'm happy with two. We used to have 3 and one died last year. It took me a long time to get used to 3 cats since I am a clean freak and am constantly cleaning up cat hair. I love them to death but am not looking to add to our brood. H was gung ho about getting a dog. No no no! A dog is too much work. He finally gave up on that idea and said we should get a kitten. I finally got on board with that after a few weeks and got excited about it and said we should go to the shelter that weekend. Well it seems like as soon as I got excited about a kitten he was no longer interested and never went to the shelter and stopped talking about it. Then he finds out his mom has like 30 strays in her barn and she offers to bring one out for us. H then tells her to bring 2. I really do not want 4 cats but he says we'll be helping her out by taking them. I'm sorry she has so many but that doesn't mean we need to become the crazy cat couple to help her out! This isn't a "Oh they are so cute and we are doing good by taking 2" because this is a 15-20 year commitment. I can totally see him regretting getting 2 on top of the 2 we have a few weeks after we get them. I foresee them peeing all over the house seeing as how they are outside cats, but he thinks we are doing good by helping her out.
Same goes for tipping. H can barely get by check to check and if I wasn't here to help out he would probably be living on the street. Yet he'll go out and have a $15 meal and leave a $10 tip because he feels the bartender or the waiter has to make enough to live. You aren't a millionaire...not even close! 20% of $15 is $3 and that is enough. I don't understand why he feels he needs to tip everyone above and beyond. We go to our usual bar and work up a $50 tab and I only give an $8 tip and he freaks out because I should have given them twice that. He thinks if we tip really well we'll get stronger drinks. Whatever! I am not flippant about giving my money to strangers because he seems to think that everyone workgin at a restaurant is nearly broke and needs his money to get by.
It's great that he's has that do-gooder spirit but I hate the fact that he does it to help others out when he can barely get by himself.
My husband does the same
Submitted by redhead1017 on
My husband does the same thing.
Personally I think he and other ADHD like to "live large" so to speak because many of them don't have anything else going on in their lives that they are proud of, and they've got to do something to compensate. When you think about it that way it makes sense.
Another thing that happened
Submitted by Mapper (not verified) on
Another thing that happened last night. H's friend had assisted suicide due to colon cancer 2 weeks ago. H went down the following weekend to help this guy's kids get some things out of his house. He comes home and tells me that the following weekend they will be having a memorial service for him. I say okay. Well as of last Friday we hadn't heard anything so I contacted one of the kids. She says it will be the following weekend to allow them to plan better. I tell her okay because we want to make sure we can make it.Then last night he mentions going down there again this weekend to help them with some other stuff. I say the memorial is supposed to be this weekend too. He immediately says "I'm not going to that! I don't want to be around people crying over him!" YOU were the one who told me about it 2 weeks ago! I assumed you wanted to go! I told the kids we'd come. I'm sure they wont be crying over him anyways. He was Irish, his friends are Irish and they like to drink. I'm sure it will be a happy occasion.