Forum:
My partner has ADHD and gets severe RSD. He can get angry at very minor things. I understand he suffers from ADHD and RSD but he can be very mean and say very hurtful things. And he shouts at me which is very upsetting.
We have argument’s regularly because he is triggered by something I say or do. He doesn’t treat anyone else this way even though family members say things to him that upset him.
I can say something quite normal in a conversation and suddenly he is shouting and storming out. I always have to apologise and 99% of the time I haven’t done anything wrong. He tells me it’s his ADHD and RSD and even though I have not done anything wrong if I apologise quickly it will all quickly die down. He says I should understand it’s RSD and be empathetic and say sorry.
I have tried this but he continues to verbally hurt me in a barrage of messages. I am constantly walking on egg shells around him. It’s easier to apologise to get back to normal but it’s like he can say or do what he does and because it’s ADHD it’s ok. He would not tolerate this type of behaviour from anyone but it’s ok for him to treat me this way.
I just have to put up with it. It’s becoming harder to deal with. And he takes longer to get back to normal and even though he will say it’s him not me, he will bring things up from previous rows.
He loves me a lot. I know that. And I give him constant support and help. I try my hardest to help him. But these rows are impacting on the way I feel about him now.
Does anyone else experience this kind of behaviour?
