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I think I have shared some "good" things, (as much as I am able, and been gifted to do) over the last several years on this site...Things that has helped me (and others) to accept the reality of what daily life is going to be like, with a high level add/adhd spouse...Who in my case, and many of yours, is in denial of her behaviors...Behaviors that have intrusive and abusive effects of their spouses....

oh wow can’t wait. Who else is signing up??? 

I had already emailed her to ask for couples as my husband has wanted us to do couples again for awhile . I guess she recommends doing the course together before she will consider doing couples. Anyway we had couples several years ago when in the throes of raising 2 teenagers. It was not good. The guy was not that great with coaching couples with one ADHD member. 

Well at least I have done something positive. He does not know I’ve signed us up . I have read the book twice. He does not know about the book.

Based on my ADHD husband's actions over the past couple of weeks, I really can't help but wonder if after a few more years of research they won't end up putting adult ADHD on the autism spectrum. He went off his vyvanse before Xmas which has been a godsend because it makes him so angry all the time.  But although his mood has been improved he acts just like a child with autism... can't tolerate any noises.... this morning he went downstairs to use his treadmill and I started the roomba in the kitchen....  I heard a bunch of yelling so I went to check if he was ok.

Hi All, I’m new to this site and soooo happy I found it. My husband has add (still waiting for the full diagnosis though). Reading your comments and the blog feels like I’m not the only one struggling to understand what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes it can be so confusing and crazy making I want to go out and never come back!

My husband says he is only taking his medicine for me and if it weren't for me he wouldn't take it. This is heartbreaking. I don't feel like him taking the medicine only for me will ever work right?

I do not need help and I do not need advice, just wish for the whole world to collapse with me. No I do not need hope. Hope hurts. Open heart hurts. Everything hurts. Sometimes for a moment I understand it is me, but the thought is do horrible that I blur and fade it away. I want to scream so hard that everything around would fall but I lost my voice. There's night, and in the morning I will have to face him. I'm sick of fear. If people could die from fear I would be long gone. 
when I met him I wondered why I received such blessing. But that was a curse in disguise. 

Today I hit a huge low.

This is my first post and forgive me if I ramble but I've got no one to share this with.  I met my partner 6 months or so after my first marriage ended in 2007.  He is ten years younger than me, never married (although he had one long term relationship) and no kids.  I have three grown kids and three grandchildren.  We started living together in 2010 after my youngest child moved out on her own.  I noticed a lot of frustrating behaviors, never cleaning up after himself, leaving cupboard and closet doors open, doors unlocked, light on ect and chalked most of it up to the fact that he had nev

This post isn't about add/adhd, personality disorders, bi-polar disease or any other mental, physical or emotional suffering.....It's about Adults, it's about freedom, and being free....Free to take a spouse, to work a job, own a business, to bring innocent children into the world, and parent them...It's about people who live long lives, and survive those lives just fine.....This post is about the responsibility level and attitude of you and your spouse... (two people who chose, and is choosing, to live out their lives together as one flesh)

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I'm new to this forum and have just finished reading Melissa's book on the Effects of ADHD in Marriage.  It was a real eye opener to see both why my husband may have behaved the way he did in our marriage and why I was behaving the way I did in our marriage.