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It is 10pm. My husband and I are supposed to go on vacation in the morning. We have strict dietary needs and while I arranged accommodations and activities, he was supposed to look into restaurants. He has not done this yet. I don't want to be stuck without food. If I make the calls at this point is that parenting behavior? How would you handle this?

I am fairly certain my husband has undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. I could explain all the valid reasons why, but please trust me.

I am also currently going through IVF and have just had my second chemical pregnancy (an early miscarriage)

If the path before you isn’t clear, you’re probably on someone else’s. – Joseph Campbell

I just discovered this forum after reading the book.

I'm new to this whole thing and my husband is not being treated. I dont think he thinks it's a problem but after my  counselor suggested he might have ADD which he had as a kid and he hates meds, but when researching ADD and marriage I'm like a lightbulb went off. The whole hyperfocus dating where I felt like a queen and now am soooooo lonely and so hopeless and just frickin overwhelmed. i have no idea where to start and I'm so over it. I know there's a person I loved somewhere in there but I'm tired and feel almost done. In addition to the ADD we also are dealing with a blended family.

I'm new here and finally got the courage to create an account and post.  I'm 33 and was diagnosed 3 years ago with ADHD-C.  I've been with my SO for 15 years now and this explained so many of our issues.  We have worked through a ton of our struggles but there is one struggle that I can't seem to get past.

Acceptance.  Acceptance of my limitations.  

I'm sharing this here not because I expect advice but because I know that many of you will understand my experience.  

"Next time you disagree, I encourage you to overtly seek the ‘and’ in your conversation."

I felt my body unclench itself reading your thoughts on this. Thanks

My husband of 30 years has ADHD. I was told by his family when we first met that he had ADHD when he was very young and it was controlled by Ritalin then he eventually grew out of it. Having no other knowledge of this type of wiring I believed everything his mother told me about it. I was given the impression that he was the only one in his family wired like this. Of course I was wrong about that. A couple years ago my husband and I went to counseling together, not for the ADHD but for the arguments that we would have about his family.

Previously, we have found evidence of our daughter not taking her medications, including pills lying around the house.  Today, my wife told me that she has not be taking them for months.  She usually puts it in her mouth, takes a drink, and shows up her empty mouth.  It seems she has somehow managed to avoid swallowing them.