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Hello All,

I am 39 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD 4 weeks ago and have had the usual veil lifted.  I am currently taking a time release Adderall, low dose and I have been referred to a CBT.  All good things I know.  Honestly I am looking forward to learning more than I have and working diligently to accept and grow with having an actual diagnosis.  

Since most ADHDers don't exhibit all symptoms, I wondered which common ADHD symptoms you might either be grateful you don't have (as a person with ADHD) or grateful your spouse does not exhibit (as the partner of someone with ADHD).

For me, my husband is not an impulsive spender. He still does not hold traditional employment or contribute enough to our household income, but he is very frugal and careful with his/our money. Despite the many other ADHD symptoms present, I am very grateful for that.

My ex-husband said to me once or twice, "I can barely take of myself."  This came after I felt at the end of my rope and shared with him how stressful it was and how sad I felt that he was not contributing more to the family via financial, emotional, and logistical support. It was devastating for me to hear him say this but humiliating, I'm sure, for him to reveal it.  

Just wondering if there are any other Canadians on these boards. I sense that the resources for ADHD are different here than in the States. Not quite sure where to put this.

Hi again, I've been posting a lot because I'm entirely alone (not one single family member or friend) and one of my major issues is deciding where my boundaries should be as a wife of a severe ADHD-er,  how much I'm supposed to endure, and if I should keep trying or truly get away. Having outside perspective helps very much so thanks in advance one again for reading/helping.

So please tell me what you would do:

He’s untreated for his ADHD. It’s pretty bad. 

My kids have ADHD. I’m working to get them the therapy and meds they need. I run everything around here, except the job part. (I am truly thankful that he can earn a nice living right now and does so.)

So...

Guy with ADHD here. Figured it out Jan 2017 and diagnosed with it March 2018. Since learning of my ADHD I've been trying everything I gain control over my life out so God willing I'll share over time tips I've learnt to make ADHD more bearable to live with.

Question: who is doing something for themselves this weekend?  Many of us may have Monday off, so...anything fun??  I dread the weekends--absolutely hate them so I make plans for myself.  This weekend my 17 year old (senior in high school) is working all day all three days.  He is a token taker at the boat launch by us and most of the college students who work at the beach have gone back so he picked up extra shifts.  Lifeguards are done this weekend, too.  So he will be occupied all weekend.

My wife has previously accepted that Orlov's book described a lot of what is happening in our marriage and even told our kids that she, like them, has ADHD.

Then she went to a psychiatric nurse and "only answered the questions she asked" and was told she is depressed, not ADHD.

I kept imploring her to tell the nurse about all the symptoms I have noticed.  She started seeing a new nurse and kept forgetting to discuss the symptoms--just answering the questions she was asked. 

My husband (who has a diagnosis of severe ADHD) had parents who were abusive/alcohilic/neglectful, but the one thing he valued was that they loved each other no matter what and stayed together till the end. So despite their dysfunctional, hurtful, abusive relations with each other, he believes love should be enough and no matter what happens you should stay with them until the end.