I went to a therapist a couple of years ago, and then stopped. Since then, H has regularly complained that I need to return (to work on "my" issues...lol). One reason I stopped going was because my T didn't feel that there was anything wrong with me, except that I needed TO DO LESS for my H! (which of course, he wouldn't like to have happen!!)
He says that I have changed... I know I have changed, but only because I do not trust a single word that comes out of his mouth!
H has been so good over the past few months. Never angry, always going to work. This Monday I came home and he was obviously upset about something as he was very terse with me. I knew something was wrong within 30 seconds of walking through the door just by the way he spoke to me. I'm 99.9% sure it's work. He didn't say anything to me about why he was upset that night. The next day he went to work and came home 2 hours later. I see he texted his manager that he didn't feel well and threw up twice. I hardly think so. I think he was frustrated with his coworkers.
Hi! I'm new here, and while I have learned A LOT so far (the books have helped me to feel like I was able to decode a language I couldn't speak before), I am stuck in trying to decide what to do. I apologize in advance for the length of this post - believe it or not, it's the short version! Lol
I am SO tired of these episodes. We haven't had one in about 2 months and he's been really good about controlling his anger. We had a great night the night before and he was pleasant in the morning before he left for work so obviously something or someone at work upset him. He acts all nonchalant when I get home like "Oh hey it's you". Yup it's me because it's only us here! Then I take a shower and get out and he proceeds to tell me how much the kittens are annoying him today by running around him while he's on the computer and trying to jump up on his lap.
I know that people with ADHD are prone to depression, but it's something I've never put "together" with my own husband's ADHD. But he DOES have depression, and sometimes absolutely nothing gets him out of it. I've started logging just WHEN he gets his rounds of depression. They seem to hit him about every 6 to 8 weeks, and it lasts about a week to 10 days. QUESTION: Is this a "usual" pattern for ADHD'ers? Do they have repetitive BOUTS of depression, or is there depression most of the time?
So I've been reading a lot of these posts, many of which are Non-ADHD women with ADHD husbands. I am a Non-ADHD husband and am at my whit's end. I really don't even know where to begin or what to say here, other than the fact that I am confused, frustrated, tired, and just plain fed-up. My wife is a stay-at-home mom, and I work from a home office. Overall, I am frustrated with my wife's significant lack of homemaking skills which include general cleaning & organizing, decorating, planning, etc. The appearance and cleanliness of our home does not seem to matter to her in any way wh
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