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After a mutual agreement in May 2022 that my husband would no longer take household funds to support his business, he told me yesterday that he needs another $10,000 due to unforeseen circumstances. I said "no" and chaos ensued. I asked why he thought it was appropriate to take household funds despite our previous agreement -- he insists that since it is unforeseen circumstances that he should not have to beg for money that is "his" and that I should see his point and agree.

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Its been 5 years of marriage and the past 2 years of sweeping "issues" under the rug have left me with a pile of dirt under a smelly rug....hmmm

Anyone relate? Anyone coping? How... How do I cope with a marriage I have no idea how to cope with? 

Hey all,

I will start out saying my wife and I have been married going on 5 years and we have been together for over 6 with being good friends for 5 years before that. We have a beautiful almost 3 year old daughter and another child on the way. My wife is one of the most hardworking people I know and put other people needs before her own. I love my wife to death but as of lately I feel like I have completely have failed her and my family.

My wife (non-adhd) and I (adhd) agreed to use verbal cues, but she feels like she uses them and I don't pick up on them. I feel like we don't really use them, even though we agreed to. So I perhaps I am too distracted when she uses verbal cues. As an example, say "you're doing the thing you do; stop doing the thing you do" is the verbal cue, she believes she says this, I don't feel like hear this and therefore don't stop. Granted I think we will try to come up with some better cues, but I'm wondering:

1. Is there something stronger than a mere verbal cue? 

Let me start by saying my partner and I are currently in a co-parent relationship. Have been separated but living together for a year. Been together 8 years, never married.

I was just diagnosed as an adult age 40, was originally diagnosed at age 6 but never knew..

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   I have a constant struggle with my husband about making plans and honoring them. 1. He doesn't really listen when we talk. 2. When I do our evening check in, he doesn't tell me he has any plans for tomorrow, and he says yes to what I propose. 3. The next morning he announces he has to do this, that or another thing, and it's urgent and can't be postponed. 4. We re-negotiate our plan for the day, usually with some frustration and hard feelings.

My husband and  I have been together for 20 years. We have been married for 5 1/2 years. I have always known he has had issues due to extreme childhood abuse. There's no question in my mind he suffers from ADHD in addition to history. He sees a therapist of his own. I see mine and occasionally we both see his.  My therapist beloved very strongly he has adhd and his therapist is dealing with the trauma. He is not being treated for ADHD cannot take medication. I am constantly the one in charge of everything. I have lists, reminders and basically take care of everything.

Hey everyone. I'm so glad I found this forum, because I've been trying so hard to find the support I'm not getting from my partner. 
I've been with my wife (they/them) for about 6 years. Married just a little over a year ago. I am a 30 year old woman diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago. 
We've always had turmoil in our relationship, but being diagnosed gave me great insight to why I do what I do... or don't do. 

Every single time I locked myself in the bedroom, through tears of sadness and anger, my Google searches have led me here. Every time, I found kindred spirits in all the women dealing with ADHD husbands, and there was some solace in knowing I was not alone. Then, as every other time before, he would make a bid for connection, and I would accept.