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After experiencing my own mind's workings...And watching my wife's mind work out it's reality, (Along with all the years of study and sharing with others in life, and here for the past nearly 8 years) I have no problem accepting the great strain that does manifest when two people try to relate and come together in a unified state...(Healthy attachments)....

Think of the things we face in trying to get there.....

1) Priorites

2) Levels of concern about any given subject

3) Nurture

4) Nature

5) Education

Trying to find ways to help my partner be more aware of how his adhd impacts our marriage and wondering if anyone ever tried going through this site with their spouse and spent a little bit of time a day to digest some or this information together. Desperate to find ways in how we can improve our homelife... we don't fight often but when we do it's terrible and in the past it was way worse. I've adjusted my expectations which has helped but I think there's a lot of work that needs to happen on his end and I'm looking to leverage this source amongst others.

Hello! 

Hi Everyone, 

I'm sad to find you all here and also relieved. My husband for years claimed he had ADHD but unfortunately I was not educated on the symptoms and assumed that he did not. I've read everyone's posts and it's like reading your life through the lens of so many other people. We only verified this diagnosis when my son was recently diagnosed with AdHD (inattentive) this past 2 months in middle school and now that we know what he has then it validates my husband's diagnosis... reading about adult adhd checks off everything we've encountered in 14 Year of marriage.

My husband and I are both ADHD diagnosed and treated. He has much more severe symptoms than I do that are moderately helped by high doses of Ritalin, except when he forgets. I do pretty well on adderrall- keeps me calm and not as spacey as without it.

My wife of 14 years was diagnosed with ADHD about 9 months ago.  Undoubtedly it's a familiar story for many here: impulsive spending, stopped working, parent/child relationship, etc. 

After her diagnosis things were supposed to improve; the medication would help and she would get the tools to change her life.  It hasn't happened and instead she hyper focuses on things she wants to do to the detriment of all others (chores, children, etc.).  

I'm stepping out on a limb here as I never wrote on a forum.  Too much to say, but I'm a 38 yr old male with a wife and 8 yr old son. I "divorced" my entire family, have no one in my life from the first 26 yrs of my life, and have no friends close enough to reach out to. I'm the one with ADHD and my wife is a therapist and complete opposite of ADHD. My son has it as well, we're both medicated and I'm in weekly talk therapy.

Hi! I am new to this community!

My husband has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and everything has clicked into place. We have a typical ADHD marriage with all the issues. Now we know this I have been reading all the articles and books, listening to all the podcasts, joined a support group and have been looking for a couples therapist.

I’m new here and this is my first post. As I work my way through what you’ve all written, I see my life in so many of your posts. I’m on the verge of tears constantly. I’m so over it. I’m hurt, I’m angry, and I’m scared. I don’t know if this can be fixed anymore. I’ve been married to my ADHD spouse for 19 years. About 10 years ago we went to counseling separately and then had one joint session together. Two therapists agreed I’d gone as far in my individual counseling as I could without my husband getting further individual counseling and possibly medication.

My ADHD wife left me and our adopted four year old child about nine months ago.  I'm not sure what else I could have done during our 8 year marriage to make her "happy", in the spirit of making our marriage work  (at her request) I left my career and friends on the east coast to start a family here in the Pacific northwest, moved my elderly mom out here a few years after that and then we adopted an incredible newborn girl who is the light and joy of both our lives.  For 8 years I had been doing the lions share of the housework, we've never been able to talk about money or budget (I managed