The Delicate Balance

ADHD & Marriage News - February 26, 2025

Quote of the Week

“You cannot wait for your relationship to become happy before you change your behavior. Relationships improve after behavior changes, not before.”

- Steven Stosny

Change First

Working with couples impacted by ADHD is different from other couples work. Among other things, it’s critical to see changed behaviors in both partners before the couple can start to reconnect. This is because if the behaviors (over-functioning and under-functioning) don’t change, injuries to each partner continue in real time.

Are you waiting for your partner to change before you engage? If so, I encourage you jump in to doing the work you need to do, instead. You will move much more quickly towards the improved relationship you seek.

EVENTS:

ADHD Effect LIVE In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (The next 9-session ZOOM seminar starts March 18. Registration OPEN).

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - We welcome you to join the community conversation in i2a! There are still a few spots left at our lowest-ever monthly rate of $124/ month! This week:

Melissa gave a wonderful workshop on resentment for both partners, which led to great exploration of what's underneath resentment and how to address it from both sides.
An ADHD partner raised his challenges around defensiveness, then members of our community offered their solidarity and strategies to help them.

Resources For Those in Relationships Impacted by ADHD

SEMINARS, GROUPS:

NEW: Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program: ADHD Management Tools, Expert Support and Community for ADHD Impacted Relationships - Learn to create lasting change as you turn your intentions and knowledge into concrete action. You’ll get specific ADHD management tools, real-time expert support for your relationship, and a connected, like-minded online community. Click here to learn more.

ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (The next 9-session ZOOM seminar starts March 18. Registration OPEN). Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. The Self-Study Seminar is available anytime. Move at your own pace. Includes materials and recordings from the recent '24 live seminar.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Full) Be part of a community of people exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. Group leaders include Tami Anderson, Amy Borla, Lee Crespi, Lisa Magel and Ashley Paradise. NEW: LGBTQIA+ and Consensual Non-Monogamy group!

Foundations in Habit Development - (Full) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Registration open. Ongoing). Are you interested in doing individual or couples work with someone who is an ADHD expert? This is a group of professionals who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Full) Navigating Parent-Child Dynamics. seven sessions. Participants obtain a deeper understanding of what drives their Parent-Child Dynamic, In this group 5 couples will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.

Therapist Training & more - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

FREE RESOURCES:

Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;

How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD;

A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;

A large number of blog posts on various topics;

Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;

Chore Score Worksheet;

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