ADHD & Marriage News - March 27, 2024
Quote of the Week
“…Consider the story of Simone Biles, the world-renowned gymnast who’s won numerous Olympic gold medals. Biles has been open about her ADHD diagnosis and has used her platform to challenge the stigma surrounding the condition. Despite the challenges that ADHD poses, she’s harnessed her ability to hyperfocus – a common ADHD trait – to excel in her sport…Or…Lesa Ling, a celebrated journalist…She’s spoken about how her ADHD has been a challenge for her but also about how it’s contributed to her success as a journalist. Her relentless curiosity, her ability to go deep into her news stories, and her unique perspective are all traits that she attributes to her ADHD.”
- from Women with ADHD by Rachel Wright
The Power of ADHD
ADHD can be hard to live with, but it can also be a superpower. Both of these extraordinary women understand the ups and downs of their ADHD and that it is not always a blessing. But they also recognize specific strengths their ADHD imparts and have really dug into, and utilized, those strengths.
I worry when I hear an ADHD partner say that they don’t wish to address any aspect of their ADHD because they fear it will take away the benefits they like. Fear is the most important word in this sentence because it clouds the potential win if they could not only use their strengths but also address some of the harder challenges. Thinking of this potential ‘win/win,’ I will often recommend that they lean into their strengths while also trying to assess and address the struggles where change could make the biggest difference for them. Don’t select the hardest thing – select the thing that will make the biggest difference.
So, they might: try medications to improve their attentiveness to their partner (they can always stop if they don’t like the effects); choose to delegate key tasks to eliminate conflict over missed deadlines; or share work with another who has complementary skills to create a better product at work as just a few examples.
Can you lead into your ADHD strengths and take on some of its bigger challenges?
Does your ADHD partner say that they don’t wish to address any aspect of their ADHD? (read more above)
STARTING NEXT WEEK:
➤ Non-ADHD Partner Support Groups - Limited to 10 participants. Two topics per day. Recorded for the confidential use.
Objectives:
- have you be part of a community of people exploring similar issues
- learn from each other's successes and struggles
- find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship
Resources For those in relationships impacted by ADHD
SEMINARS, GROUPS:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? My premier, highly acclaimed 9-session zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The next LIVE seminar will start in Fall 2024. (There will be NO spring seminar in 2024.)
Non ADHD Partner Support Group (Registration open) and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group - Be part of a community exploring similar issues, successes and struggles and find new, effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
New: ADHD & Marriage Professional Training Program - an integrated team of experts dedicated to supporting the needs of couples and adults impacted by ADHD.
FREE RESOURCES:
How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD;
Downloadable chapters of my books;
A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
A large number of blog posts on various topics;
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ADULT ADHD CAN HAVE A HUGE IMPACT ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
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