Putting Others Ahead of Yourself

Does the idea of putting others ahead of yourself sound familiar?  How about saying “I should just do X because it’s too much of a hassle to get my partner to do it”?

If so, there’s a word for that – co-dependency.  It’s when you don’t support yourself in a way that helps you thrive and, instead, subjugate yourself to the needs of others around you.  While it may be expedient at first, over the long-run it can make you feel less than, depressed and invisible.

Parent/child dynamics is one example of co-dependency in ADHD-impacted relationships.  One partner under-performs and the other person compensates for that at cost to themselves.

One of the best resources for understanding and getting out of co-dependency is an ‘oldie but goodie,’ Melodie Beatty’s book, Co-Dependent No More.  If you think you struggle with these issues, I urge you to read it.  It, combined with information about how to manage ADHD issues, will start you on a path to a healthier relationship.

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Resources

Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The next live session STARTS October 20, 2021. Registration is now open.

Support Tele-groups - Be part of a community exploring similar issues, successes and struggles and find new, effective ways to be your best self in your relationship: Non ADHD Partner Support Tele-group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group.

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