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“…the real issue is not how long I live, but how well I live.  It’s not about how many breaths I take, but how many breathless moments I get to live through.  And it’s not about the number of hours I have with friends and loved ones.  It’s the depth, warmth and integrity of the relationships I build with them during the time we spend together.”

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There is no doubt that the busy-ness of our lives can easily be detrimental to the strength of our relationships.  It’s not the number of hours you are together - anyone who has sat in the same room with a partner and not spoken a word with each other knows this! BUT, you DO have to have enough time together to ‘attend’ to each other.  That means paying attention in a way that specifically shows your partner you care…and having your partner tuned in enough to accept and notice your attention.  (Dinner with friends doesn't count!  It's not attending to each other, but to other people.)

“Attend time” is an important concept when one or both of you has ADHD.  So much so, in fact, that I spend a good amount of time talking about it in my next book, The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD (available for preorder - being released May 1).

When was the last time you or your partner connected in a way that communicated “I care?”  If it’s been a while, create a plan to change this through your own actions.

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DON'T FORGET TO SIGN UP FOR THE ADHD EFFECT COUPLES SEMINAR SERIES, GIVEN BY PHONE.  NEXT SEMINAR STARTS APRIL 15TH.  USE THIS COUPON CODE - APRIL14 - TO GET $20 OFF WHEN YOU REGISTER.  This seminar has helped many couples improve their ADHD-impacted relationship.  I will not be giving this seminar again until October, 2014 at the earliest.

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