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“Honest failure is a badge of experience. All of you will fail at some time in your career, or in love or in life. No one ever sets out to fail. But being afraid to fail means you’ll be afraid to try.”
         - Steve Blank

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Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Sustaining a good relationship (vs. initiating one) has much to do with trying new things and, sometimes, failing at them. To keep your sex life interesting, you might add new positions or toys (and, hopefully, laugh if they don’t turn out as expected!) You might try new ways to keep your household organized, or go to a world premier play to spruce up your date night only to be horrified by the content.

If one of you has ADHD, you will undoubtedly be experimenting with how to organize yourself better, how to stay on task, and how to remind yourself to be involved rather than distracted.

This experimenting is critically important work – never be afraid to try…and also measure your success so you can answer the question “is this a keeper…or do I move on?”

The partner to experimentation is creating an environment in which trying new things is valued. That means encouragement, rather than “that’s a stupid idea”…and responding with laughter rather than tears or frustration when something doesn’t work out as planned.

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