| ADHD & Marriage - Weekly Marriage Tip - March 13, 2013 | |||
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“Trying to motivate yourself with fear is like screaming at a child, ‘Do something, dammit!’” - Martha Beck | |||
| Fear | |||
| “If I don’t do better, my partner will leave…” is a comment that I’ve heard from many ADHD partners with a tremor in their voices. While it might give them the adrenaline they need to focus for a while, in the long-term my observation is that it is more likely to paralyze them. “The stakes are high…what if I make a mistake?” is one reason. Furthermore, this type of fear is very general. It provides no direction for change. Threats from a non-ADHD partner typically don’t work for the same reason. Increasing the stress on your partner will most likely just make the ADHD symptoms worse. Or, you may get a quick response but no lasting change. A better approach is a calm but persistent one. One that does not put your partner on the defensive, but rather suggests that success is a real possibility with the right approach and some hard work. This is the approach I try to help my couples take, and it works. ______________________________________________________________________________________ DISCOUNT FOR TIPS READERS ONLY! TAKE $25 OFF THE LIVE COUPLES COURSE STARTING APRIL 9TH. USE COUPON CODE TIPS0413 AND DON'T FORGET TO CLICK ON "APPLY." Go to this link for details and/or registration. | |||
| For those in marriages impacted by ADHD | |||
 | If you or your spouse has ADHD, please join our forum at www.adhdmarriage.com to ask your questions and learn from others who share your issues. In addition, you'll find in-depth essays to help you learn how to thrive in a marriage affected by ADHD. Hope to hear from you there! Melissa Orlov |  | |
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