Well I have finally come to terms that my wife is not going to be able to deal whith my adhd and I dont blame her, But to have to find out that she was having a affair and that she seem's to think its no big problem even though the divorce isnt finaly is really a killer to me.   I still love her but I guess I understand why she must move on but I thought she wold at least wait untill we wernt married, this hurts more to me then the divorce does and even though i will over come my adhd I dont know if I can over come the fact that she was unfaithful to me, And she doesnt think she's doing anything wrong is just plain hurtfull