Actions have consequences.  If you act as if you are helpless in a relationship, not carrying your weight in household responsibilities, you may well be consigned to a ‘less than’ role in your partnership.  Even if what you think you want is respect. 

If you aggressively pursue your partner in an effort to get them to do more, you may live the consequences of that aggression – not the compliance you are looking for, but the other human response – escape from your pursuit.

If you say you really want to find a new job, but don’t update your resume or apply to any positions, your partner is likely to wonder if you really do want that job, after all.

If you love your partner but also have an affair you may end up divorced, even if divorce is not what you sought, only fun.

Others will generally interpret your actions to be representative of ‘what you’re after’ or want.  You are not in control of how others will respond to your actions, so don’t make any assumptions that they will see it as you do, and be careful about what you communicate through your actions and choices.  As the Talking Heads say…watch out, you might get what you’re after.  Or at least what others perceive you’re after.

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