Submitted by DeeDee25 on 09/11/2023.
Just finished the book and I have a question about the learning conversations and mirror conversations. Does anyone do these in real life? I honestly cannot fathom my husband (ADHD) and myself (ADHD-ish but more a nag) speaking to each other like this. We are the couple that almost got kicked out of Lamaze class for laughing when the instructor said that he'd need to tell me really nice things when I was at the peak of labour pains. Lucky for him I ended up with 3 c-sections which he was completely silent all the way thru. So, I'm not feeling really confident that either of us will be able to seriously converse in this manner. Has anyone discovered a useful alternative or maybe a less talky version of these types of conversations?
Probably not what you want to hear
Submitted by Jimbo on
These didn't work with me and my wife. She would never instigate them and usually resisted my attempts. This spring when I approached her again I had my AHA moment. I finally asked myself what I was doing? After 14 years I am putting in all the CONSISTENT effort and for what? I know how to listen, reflect, remember, de-escalate, be considerate, apologize, etc. etc. That moment was the beginning of the end for me. She is moving out at the end of the month. It's too much!