Losing Yourself

I hear regularly in non-ADHD support groups this comment:

“I feel I’ve lost myself (in my relationship)”. 

Do you feel the same way?

If you feel lost it may be because navigating the struggles and emotions in your life has distorted both your relationship and you.  You might be ‘walking on eggshells’ and unable to fully express yourself.  Though normally a calm person, you may feel resentful and rage at things that are ‘small’ but symbolic.  You may feel hopeless and not know where to turn or how to find joy.  You may resent or dislike your partner and have no idea what to do with that.

If these patterns sound familiar, then it may be a good time for some reflection and boundary resets.  Are you living (and acting) in alignment with your most cherished values?  Do you treat others (and particularly your partner) in ways you would like to be treated?

Your values are the core of who you are as a person.  Once you are behaving in accordance with them you are more likely to ‘be you.’

If you wish to learn more about boundaries and values resets, consider our Couples Seminar or ADHD & Marriage Consulting.

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