Forum topic: Is it better if you leave?

My partner and I have been together for 15 years and the last five have been extremely hard.  I have contemplated leaving many times.  I hate how I feel around him.  There is very little effort, little sharing of partnership, a lot of similarities to what I have been reading on this site.  What I would like to know, is it better for those who have left?  Is it better for you mentally?  Better for your children?  I so want to do the right thing and I do love my partner but his ADHD is destroying me and I don't know how long I can continue to endure it.  Can anyone speak to leaving and how they are doing?    

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=(  I feel the same way.  I don't know what to do about it.  I feel:

ignored, like my needs don't matter, like i'm at fault FOR EVERYTHING simply because i have needs.  I feel awful around him these days, where he used to make me feel loved, cherished and special, i feel empty worthless and unimportant, and i'm about to throw in the towel =(

Your post is awhile ago, have you made any progress??

Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything.