Forum topic: My husband just called and told me his boss just fired him

I am so sorry, Daizze. The hits just keep on comin'. :(

I feel badly for you and your husband.  To have another stressor on your plate right now with all you have going, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm very sorry, daizzebelle.  Do you know why?

I know some things about you. Remember, we are intuitive. Because of who you are, you have a bright future. Your love for people is going to lift you out of this disappointment. Your best days are coming. That's for sure. You will see. 

Rest. Be assured that you will not only get through this, the more you let go, the more astounded you will be as you place one foot in front of another and your life opens up in new and exciting ways 

In one month, it will be 10 years since my now ex-husband was fired.  In some ways, I'm surprised he lasted as long as he did at that job. It was a poor match for him.  (Unfortunately, it was the last "normal" full-time job he held.  His dad later hired him to be a caregiver, and he's still doing that now, but his dad insisted on paying him under the table, and that was one factor that contributed to our marriage ending.) I won't lie; the job loss was very stressful.  Please be kind to yourself in this difficult time.  

When we have spouse's who's lives are filled with drama... Simply because of their lack of discipline and responsibility...We must not try to bear the burden of what we can't effect in any way.....It's not ours!!!....When our spouses dump this kind of news on us....We must stay calm....Let it be their deal....Let you comments be kind, but, don't take it on yourself (enable)...." I hate that for you, I know you will do the right thing, and find another job"

It's a good possibility he already knew it wasn't going to go well when he went into the meeting....Most people know..LOL...People who want to excuse their irresponsibility, will always blame or act surprised...They may even be surprised, due to their faulty view of reality... (Don't even know what it truly means to be responsible and accountable)

Try to be calm, don't own it,..,Don't let it effect your emotions....You and me and many here can't say we don't know this kind of stuff is a high probability...So lets not self inflict pain on ourselves....That's our own denial if we do that.... We set here and right about the dysfunction of not even being able to trust own spouse's, in the simple tasks of life....So we should never be shocked.....He will find something else....It's just another one of those life lessons...The less you say the more he will have to own it....Irresponsible people love it when their spouse says to much....By bed time they will have it flipped, in order to make it someone else's fault...

Do what you have to do, to just count on you....You are loved!

c

Good advice, C.

That must have been an awful call to get and have to process. You had such kind words for me a few daus ago...i wish karma was a little more instant but it doesnt work that way i guess. I hope the two of you can learn something constructive from this. 

And when he knew for certain
Only drowning men could see him
He said "All men are sailors then
Until the sea shall free them"

But he himself was broken
Long before the sky would open
Forsaken, almost human
He sank beneath your wisdom like a stone

cohen

I got off topic. I apologize. My HP (higher power or God) has helped me in so many ways, I wish that everyone who is in need would find in him the same loving being/resource, but I know many are not into that kind of thing. I just want you to be well and happy and thriving whatever that takes.

How are you? Update us if you can. You are really special and are appreciated. You don't have to communicate anything per se. Just share whatever is on your heart and mind, if that might help.