I have a dilemma. I last saw my boyfriend almost a month ago. Last time we were with each other for the weekend. We went to dinner and did fun couples activities the entire weekend. Our weekend went well and we had a lot of fun. We made plans to see again in about two days. I get a text a few days later saying that he is going to self-isolate for some time because he isn't feeling well. His physician is out of town and can't refill his prescription, so he went to a new physician who prescribed something entirely different. He said the new medication is making him very emotional and he is having outbursts that he is going to self-isolate and focus on his classes for his master's program. He said he only needed a few days, so I gave him that.
Last time I checked in with him he was over at his parent's house because he thought being around family might help him feel better. Last time I called him he said he would call me back later.
It has now been 3 weeks and I haven't heard from him since. It's unusual of him. We usually communicate or talk every other day or every few days. We are both in our late twenties and have been dating for 5 months. I don't have his family members numbers and he doesn't have my family members numbers. We have video-chatted with each other's families, but we haven't met each other's families as of yet.
I have called him about once every day and texted him, but no response at all. He seemed to be in a terrible emotional state ( hopeless and sad) the last time we spoke. I've contacted him on social media, but I haven't gotten a response. I'm wondering if he checked himself into a ward or what happened etc. My heart is breaking because I don't know what happened and I'm hoping he is ok.
How long can someone self-isolate? I'm trying not to think the worst. If he wanted to break up he would tell me, he wouldn't just leave without a trace.
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That is concerning....
Hope he is well...
I've witnessed this behavior so often (high level add wife) and read her for 11 years, so I guess I'm a little numb to the disappearing acts...But the reality of it is, either way, there is nothing you can do about it...Often times certain mind types who do this, will show back up like nothing is wrong...And think we (the abandoned partner) the person left concerned and wondering should be fine...It's just the product of minds that live in a "it's all about me state." I've lived w/ it for years...And I've read on this site for years the same patterns...Every now and then someone who lives in a self centered mind will get on here and be desperately seeking advice on how to stop their spouse (the one they have been disrespectful, intrusive, and uncaring toward) from leaving them...It's amazing!...It want be how sorry they are, it will just be how to control her or him...