Hi all, I'm looking for advice on hyperfocus in a relationship wearing off after about 18 months with an ADHD partner. As our relationship has progressed, my partner has previously said on multiple occasions that they want to move in with me and they want a future with me (marriage, children etc). However, recently my partner has said they now want to attend therapy for guidance and to make sure they are making the right decision about a life with me. I think therapy is a great tool, however I was extremely caught off guard by this comment. I interpret this comment as a change in my partner's mindset, and perhaps they don't necessary want a future with me anymore, or don't know if they want this, even though in the past they have seemed very certain about wanting these things with me. I am wondering if this is related to the ADHD hyperfocus wearing off after about 18 months in our relationship? I am hoping for any advice on working through this stage. Thank you.
Hyperfocus wearing off
Submitted by Ala2022 on 08/29/2022.
Is your partner actively managing their ADHD symptoms?
Submitted by Will It Get Better on
Has your partner been evaluated by a doctor with strong ADHD credentials? Is your partner taking prescribed medication for ADHD? Does your partner have a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist?
Yes they were diagnosed with
Submitted by Ala2022 on
Yes they were diagnosed with ADHD at a young age and take prescribed medication. I don't think they have a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist.
I wish I had known
Submitted by ThisIsMyLife on
Hi, my wife was recently diagnosed and is unmedicated
In our case the hyperfocus drop off was masked by stress and subsequent grief of her mother dying. Then she had slightly more focus on getting married. Then it.was getting pregnant.
Now our son is four and I feel.like a single parent most of the time.
Everything is negative. The house, the neighbourhood, the school. She wants a second child because she is bored of the first one and I believe just wants the maternity leave more than the child.
I would say be careful. It can be a very lonely existence.