Submitted by Hani on 05/01/2022.
I tried to stop, ill go a few days without it ans then I will be back at it again knowing how deterimental it is to my unborn baby that I don't use nicotine. He said I was a bad mother, that I didn't deserve to be one, he also said that I was poisoning his baby and he would resent me for life if anything is wrong when the baby is born. I feel so depressed, I love my baby I have waited so long to see him, I just have it hard controlling myself..and I loathe myself for it...I feel like a mountain is weighing on my heart.
Be gentle on yourself
Submitted by Sunshine76 on
I'm sorry he told you you were a bad mother- don't listen to him! Guilt and Self loathing *always* make you crave what you are addicted to more so try to be gentle on yourself.
Be curious about why you are craving nicotine (stress? Just cravings? Not being able to treat yourself in healthy ways?).
2 thoughts: talk to your doctor. There may be a patch or pill or something you can take. My mom quit with a pill called Chantix that she got from her doctor. (By the way she had 8 kids in the 70's and smoked through all of them, they were all fine.) I quit with the patch. I also read ' The No Nag, No Guilt Guide to Quitting smoking' and it was SO helpful. It's where I saw that connection between guilt and needed to smoke more to sooth my emotions when I felt guilty. Tell your self how great you are, and how much that baby will love you just the way you are.
That's a little harsh.....
Submitted by c ur self on
It sounds like he needs to talk to the guy in the mirror....If he is do dead set against it, he needs to ask himself why he would participate in getting his smoking wife pregnant?...Blame casting is such a cheap way to avoid responsibility...I suggest you focus on loving yourself, and your unborn child...And do the best you can w/ the nicotine addiction...Pray about it...I will pray for you also...
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I don't smoke, I use nicotine
Submitted by Hani on
I don't smoke, I use nicotine pouches, I have always needed some form of stimulant to cope with life, otherwise I feel too lethargic or uninterested in life...I wish I knew why? I believe I have ADD but the doctors all tell me it's just anxiety and depression, so stopped trying to convince them to help me get a diagnosis. I wish I was strong and not so weak and pathetic, always saying sorry for mistakes I could have corrected.
Hani...
Submitted by c ur self on
There is usually something behind our unhealthy emotions, or mental states....Some times we know it, some times we aren't aware of it, and in some cases, we can block trauma completely out of our discernable memory...(Child abuse, Rape, other forms of abuse, even insecurities can bring on low self esteem and can trigger depression)...I'm no Doctor, but, your post touched me...God love's us, warts and all...I pray you can find some self love, self confidence, and move past any mental or emotional blocks that is hindering you from experiencing a peaceful and Joy filled life....
Also the things we fill our mind with is vital....Stay away from things that bring you down....What ever that might be, surround your life w/ happy things....<3
Bless you
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