Have been reading up some on emotional safety. It’s apparently what a person feels when they and their emotions are fully accepted, by a person or a group of people.
I struggle to understand what happened in my ADD marriage. At the end, noone felt emotionally safe. I ruined his safety by being critical for decades before his diagnosis. But despite conflict and trust erosion, I believe on the whole he’s made me more emotionally safe than anybody else.
Am I delusional about this because we were socially isolated? And because my family doesn’t make me feel emotionally safe either, so there was little to compare with?
Or was he just more accepting than anyone else I’ve known?
I know now that I absolutely crave emotional safety. I don’t know if I’ll want a romantic relationship again, but I need emotional safety like air. At the same time I feel it might be an illusion.
Is it possible to love and accept somebody fully, always validating their emotions because you truly feel those emotions are valid? Not have opinions on their circumstances or be critical of their judgment?
Do I manage to love the children like that?
Is it possible within the dynamic of ADHD-non? Or at all..?
I feel it could be my life goal at this point, to create emotional safety for those around me.
