I'm a wife, going on two years now. Before and after marriage we've had some difficulty with staying focused and attentive during...sometimes intimate moments. Which admittedly lead to feelings of disconnect and sometimes frustration. Thankfully after a LOT of work, we managed to maintain a comfortable and open space to talk about such things. Though it took plenty of trial and effort.
That included setting aside specific times for intimacy, incorporating different forms of stimulation (including toys, one of which was this which I love so far) or finding alternative ways to express affection and our bond.
It's had its ups and downs, like when a change in medication seemed to boost my sex drive (which my partner at first appreciated) but then lead to other issues popping up due to the increased frequency. Yet it there are periods where I realize that it is in fact getting easier. I'm proud of that outside of the obvious things regarding the bedroom.
I just wanted to share, and wanted to see experiences from others.
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I think this is awesome! Great to hear. I struggle as the guy right now cause my drive is a 10 and her is a -10 haha. She doesn’t care for even basic touching and I’m starting to lose my mind.