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Hello, I'm new to this community and I'd like to get some advice on my marriage. I'm a person without ADHD and my wife has ADHD. I recently finished reading "The ADHD effect on marriage" as I was beginning to feel ignored and unloved. I've become bossy and controlling in our relationship and I hate myself. Much of the book talks about empathizing with your partner and appreciating the strengths that come with their ADHD rather than focusing on the negatives.

What do you do when your ADHD husband outright indicates that he doesn’t know if commitment to you and your marriage outweighs his curiosity for being with other women?  I am at a loss.  I don’t even recognize the man I married anymore.  He got a taste of this fix for other women with an affair and immediately regretted it when I stated my boundaries and left him.  I decided to put my heart back on the line again, against my wishes of not wanting to be this shattered ever again, but he outlined with such clarity his regrets saying he would never do anything to hurt me ever again.  He made a

I just replied to someone else's post and thought I should share my story here in the Joy in Marriages ADHD section. My wife and I have been married for 20 years, together for more. Her ADHD and symptoms did not really get heavy until after childbirth around 15 years ago. She was diagnosed around 10 years ago. 

We have 2 girls and both also have been diagnosed with ADHD. Needless to say my life has been impacted by ADHD. So have their lives. It's this simple observation that has been the baseline of our successful relationship.

Hi, I am relatively new here and grateful to hear your stories - up until now I felt so alone and misunderstood. Rather than listing the numerous unfinished projects, equipment blocking our driveway and money lost on irresponsible (and completely unilateral) decisions on "good deal" major purchases my undiagnosed husband has made during our 17 year marriage. If not for our 2 children I would have left a few years ago.

Hi all, I'm looking for advice on hyperfocus in a relationship wearing off after about 18 months with an ADHD partner. As our relationship has progressed, my partner has previously said on multiple occasions that they want to move in with me and they want a future with me (marriage, children etc). However, recently my partner has said they now want to attend therapy for guidance and to make sure they are making the right decision about a life with me. I think therapy is a great tool, however I was extremely caught off guard by this comment.

I have been with my partner for 6 VERY rocky years. Beginning of this year he got the diagnosis of inattentive type ADD which explains A LOT! The question we are facing now is medication... his doctor is currently evaluating with his cardiologist what kind he can take etc. 

Hi all, I'm an ADHD husband married to the best wife in the world, and I have a very big problem.

Also, I have positively no idea which section of the forum suits better for this, so I will post it here.
This turned out to be a very, VERY long post, so if you don't feel like reading through it, you are welcome to scroll down and check the questions, which are very important for me (well, your answers to them are, definitely).

And I hope I provided enough information here, if I missed something – I'm sorry, still, you are free to ask questions to get more details.

Hi all.

First post here.

Some months ago, my wife was speaking to a new friend who had been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult.  My wife mentioned that maybe she thought she might have it.  We discussed it a little but didn't really explore it much.  I must admit, I was always skeptical of ADHD in the past but I have since been convinced that it is completely and totally real.

Hi all. My partner and I have just moved from the US to the UK.
I think my partner has ADHD or a related condition. She was never officially diagnosed, but she has all the symptoms (which she manages pretty well, I have to say).

In the US she was using Adderall to get through her work day. She could get it legally prescribed without an ADHD diagnosis, I still don't understand how - I'm not American myself and I'm not familiar with the private system.
Now we moved to the UK, and so the Adderall pump is dry.

How does it work in the UK?

Hi, I am the non-ADHD partner of a severely ADHD, non-managed, non-medicated husband and I'm fast approaching my wits end.

We've been married nearly 4 years and I feel that I was so naive to take on someone with his level of problems. Depressed, obese, long term unemployed. Never had a job. Has all the classic ADHD traits, talks over people, often comes across badly to others, cant finish anything, bad with money, I take on all the responsibility. I'm the sole breadwinner. Im burnt out.