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Looking for perspectives form other families dealing with similar situations.

Hey Yall, I'm a non, married 40 years to a non-diagnosed, untreated ADHD that in my view is severe. I've been studying books, reading blogs, lurking around here and learning more and more. Ruling out certain "tries" that aren't effective, observing and attempting to keep my sanity. Sometimes I wonder if I have dementia or alzheimers or is the chaos of a marriage partner with this enough to make you doubt your own sanity or cause the massive stress that gives chronic brain fog? ok I'm rambling sorry. My question here now is this: How do I approach the "naming" of these issues i.e.

Listened to an interesting session last night - the first of the series - and was delighted to hear that it's important to think about what the top few issues you see in your ADHD partner before deciding on the right medication. I've always been curious about this and I feel like a lot of docs and therapists who don't know ADHD/ADHD relationships well might not prescribe as effectively as they could.

Dr. Barkley gave a good presentation on how adult ADHD is different then childhood ADHD and how it should be diagnosed.

https://youtu.be/W6JBgeFbYCc

You may have read my posts on my daughter being admitted to psychiatric hospitals in July and August.  Now, she has been admitted once again--this time at her own request.  She told us about some very disturbing obsessive thoughts, including walking into fire and taking large doses of Tylenol.  She also said she was afraid of hurting herself.  I was in the ER from 9pm Wednesday to 5:00pm Thursday.

My wife was trying to get me to not have her admitted.  But the things she had said were so disturbing that I felt there was no choice.

I'm not even angry or frustrated anymore, just dead and numb inside...

My husband has ADHD. I do not. We have two little kids. It's been a long, long road and things are not good. So he's on day 4 of trying Strattera. I was reading all about how alcohol can make things worse and we sat down last week and talked about it and we both agreed he wouldn't drink any alcohol for a few weeks after starting. But then on day 2 he drank three beers. I said the next day- wait a sec, I thought we both agreed. He said- I didn't think we made that official. OMG!

I often sit at night alone, crying, wondering why this is my life. He says I’m important, he says I’m his everything, but when it comes to us spending quality time together, he has other things he rather do. He relies on me to lead the way in cooking, organizing our lives, supporting him through tough times and taking care of our son. And like the fool I am, I do. When it comes to my basic needs, simple requirements from a partner, or reciprocal love, it’s seems to be a foreign concept to him or often under the impression that he’s doing his part.

Many of us (me for sure) have leaned on the word denial, when it comes to our spouses choices, and living of life...But is it?...Is their choices denial, or just adult choices? Is your choices denial? Are do you own your choices, and behaviors in life?

My wife isn't blind to her choices, she isn't ignorant either...She is intelligent despite her high level add mind....

So why did I decide her refusal to openly communicate about her life choices (Things she pursue's, and the things she choose's to mostly ignore) is some how a mind of denial toward those responsibilities?

My husband and I have been married for 5 years. In the beginning he was thoughtful, fun, etc and I had me we been happier in my life. After we got married things started to change. He has become unreliable and downright all over the place. Sometimes I feel like I have to do everything. I'm a RN with a stressful job and I feel like I always pick up the slack. The only thing I can depend on is knowing that he won't get it done. I feel HORRIBLE for talking so bad about him but I'm suffering.