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Welcome to "ADHD & Marriage"

Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Melissa Orlov and Dr. Ned Hallowell blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?

Blogs & Tips

Insights and inspiration

What does it take for couples to move beyond ADHD and negative responses to ADHD? Our blogs help you find out. With a balanced, respectful approach, we provide the information, ideas and inspiration both partners need.

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Recent blog posts

  • Parts Work: Four Steps to Being Less Defensive

    Want to feel better about how you navigate conflict in your relationship? Here’s a four-part approach, based on Internal Family Systems (IFS), that will help you listen to what’s going on inside yourself and receive your partner’s words more easily. 

  • Understanding Parent-Child Dynamics in Couples with ADHD

    Relationships can be complex, and when ADHD is part of the equation, some unique patterns may emerge. One such pattern is the "parent-child dynamics," which is surprisingly common in relationships where one or both partners have ADHD. This dynamic can create tension, frustration, and, over time, resentment. But here's the good news—it can also be recognized and transformed into a healthier, happier partnership. Let’s dive into what this dynamic is, how you can spot it, and, most importantly, how to move forward.

  • What Happens When You Use ADHD & Marriage Communication Strategies?

    Blogger Alice Sammon and her partner did an experiment to capture how effective some of my most popular communication methods might be for them.  She reports their experiences (and success, I'm happy to say!) with verbal cues, learning conversations, good apologies and conflict intimacy in this post.  She also adds some helpful tips about how they made sure both partners can use the strategies effectively.  Curious?  Go check out

  • Navigating the Search for a Great ADHD Coach

    In this post, coaching expert Katherine Buoscio provides what to look for in an ADHD coach, and the questions to ask to ensure you find a coach who fits your specific needs.

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Share questions & ideas

Living with ADHD can be tough, whether you have it, or are married to it. Share your questions, your confusion, your pain, and your experiences with others who face the same sorts of issues you do. You are not alone!

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Learn from our experts

ADHD-impacted relationships are not like other relationships and often struggle. Melissa Orlov, “one of the foremost authorities on ADHD and relationships in the world,” offers an outstanding 8-week phone seminar designed specifically to help couples impacted by ADHD learn to thrive. Our experts also offer self-study courses and coaching support groups for non-ADHD partners, ADHD partners, and for couples. Let us help you on your journey to re-find your love.

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Couples seeking help with the behaviors ADHD encourages in their relationship can work with Melissa Orlov by phone or Skype.

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Books & Resources

Curated for usefulness

Our goal is to help you learn what you need to know to create the loving, healthy relationship you seek. In this section you’ll find the best books for various issues couples impacted by ADHD often face, as well as video interviews, articles and research.

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ADHD Treatment

It's not just about meds

Here’s the good news – research suggests 50-80% of adults with ADHD can significantly improve, or even ‘normalize,’ their symptom management if they create a good ADHD treatment plan. This section provides what you need to know to create an optimized treatment plan for the ADHD partner. Hint – it’s definitely not just about meds.

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Training & more

This section is for counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help them improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

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