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I posted a while back about a number of issues, the two big ones being my husband's finances and the colossal wrecks of both our basement and garage. 

Bonjour à tous, 

I’m new here, and I have to say I’m really glad I found a site like this.

I’m 45 years old and had been living with an amazing woman for 21 years. We have a home and two young daughters, aged 6 and 10.

I tried to post once already so sorry if it duplicates.

I’m struggling with the harm my ADHD ex is doing to our son when he visits. Both kids are young adults and leaving for college soon. Their dad visits every weekend and each time it’s an emotional setback for my son.

Had a short text conversation with my ex about one of the teenagers today. We hadn’t texted for perhaps a couple of months. I always keep it to an absolute minimum.

I just heard this term the other day and have found that there are articles about it in The Guardian, Vogue, the New York Times, and Vice Magazine.

Apologies in advance to any men here. I'm sure there are men out there who do this with women, but I'm prone to believe this is a cultural thing that normally goes one way. 

My husband is self-diagnosed AuDHD and has depression. He is unmedicated and doing talk therapy 2x per month. We do couples counseling 2x a month as well. The counseling has helped us understand our dynamic and why we keep repeating the same patterns. My husband is basically critical and condescending all the time. He has emotional regulation challenges, and neither of us communicate very well.

I wanted to report my current status living alone in the desert. Just to recap, I'm about 140 miles from the nearest real town in any direction, and 30 miles from any civilized wayside stop for gas and bare essentials. One of the largest most devestating wildfires in the continential US is still burning only 80 miles from my current location. I have to drive 3 miles to get drinkable water as the area is experiencing a drought. There is a hotsprings here, which makes this place ideal.

I am beginning to get very scared about our older years, which are fast approaching. 
I'm concerned about my husband's spending, secrets about spending, and ADHD. 

Husband’s business has not been profitable for 5 years but he continues to believe it will be if he just puts more money into it and tries different ideas. He is now taking a portion of our investment accounts to support his business, without a word to me, as he feels it is “his” money since much came from his parents’ estate distribution. Since he will no longer speak with me about this matter, we are scheduled for Family Mediation in mid-September. I have no idea how long I am going to last like this.

My Fiancé has always thought the world of me and we had a very strong loving long term relationship. A few ups and downs and minor disagreements here and there along the way, but a very happy healthy relationship. He proposed to me in Italy in July 2025 with a ring he designed himself and had a bespoke Jeweller make and put a lot of thought in to it and was very serious about it.