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Hello all! I am new to this site and the non-ADHD partner in my relationship. My (recently diagnosed) ADHD partner has a difficult time remembering things I tell him, I think because he is either distracted and not paying attention, or because he is listening on a superficial level and not really making meaning of what I am saying. He often doesn't ask questions even when he isn't fully tracking or would need more details/context to have a perspective. This could be about logistical stuff, but it causes the most problems when I want to share personal stories from my life.

I have cried this weekend about what I perceive is ADHD-tinged relatives doing everything on their terms only.

Then again, I may be steeped into codependency and therefore have an odd sense of how people interact. I’m trying to understand the panic I feel in the face of non-negotiation.

My partner was diagnosed with ADHD in her forties a couple of years ago, she has struggled with this and we split up for some time after her diagnosis due to her headspace and feeling she couldn’t give the time or effort to a relationship. We got back together a year ago and she is now questioning our relationship but acknowledges she doesn’t know why. She loves me but can’t articulate her feelings. She recognizes it’s related to ADHD, but I’m unsure how to support her or help her communicate.

A recent conversation with my SO has got me thinking. We didn't see eye to eye on something that got me wondering why?

When one, or both, of your parents have Narcissist tendencies, a child has little choice but to endure the abuse.  You are a victim, in the truest sense of the word.

As an adult, you can always leave your situation. You do not have to stay and tolerate abuse, it is your choice....you are not a victim, in the truest sense of the word.

Anyone here read this book? It's been recommended but im finding it hard to get through, not sure if it's good to for people like a non-Adhd spouse. 

So it's looking like our 11 year old might have autism and NOT ADHD like we previously suspected. They are awaiting reports from us soon and to be honest, I'm kinda shocked. Although when I have prolonged engagement with my husband, it's not that shocking as much because I long suspected my spouse might be AuADHD (not sure that's how u type it). 

Not looking for skeptical diagnosis but just seeing if anyone else in the same boat?? I have NO CLUE what next step to begin with. 

My kid triggers my husband, my husband is not a functional human being. 

For a while now the thought of shame has come up. 

It seems to me life with an ADD partner has been shaped to a great extent by shame. My ex avoiding everything that was out of his reach made the world small for us. It was embarrassing. Even though I didn’t realize it at the time, it was the reason socializing with others was so awkward.

Hello; My fiance and I have gone our separate ways.  I am harboring so much anger because of the past 8 years together, engaged for almost 3 years.  We called our wedding off 3 months before the wedding as my fiance was just diagnosed ADHD and possibly bipolar.  We both agreed that seeking help for his health superceded a wedding.

This is not some new revelation, but just a reminder. Again, just sharing something I feel is important.

I keep bringing myself back to Echart Tolle's revelation, in the moment he had his epiphany. This also, deals with the "us and them" dichotomy.

At his lowest state, next to suicide, he thought " I can't live with myself ". Then he thought, "who is this "self" I can't live with?"

In essence, he's just "one" person, who's this extra thing, construct, story, idea, or person, who's not himself? Imagination?