What Do You Love About You?
Sometimes you can lose yourself in a struggling relationship. It can be helpful to stop thinking about your relationship and take a moment to reconnect with what you love about yourself.
Pursuit-Retreat Patterns Will Destroy Your Marriage
It’s the catch-22 of ADHD-impacted relationships (and many non-ADHD marriages, as well!) For many couples impacted by ADHD, distraction, disengagement and retreat from conflict leave non-ADHD partners feeling ‘stranded’ and lonely. Their natural response is to pursue their partner for attention…and disaster results. What do you do?
Inside-Out Solutions
Coach Jeff Copper explains why both observation and experimentation are critical to finding strategies that work for you.
What should I know about taking ADHD medication for myself or my partner?
There are quite a few individuals who have recently been evaluated, or will be evaluated for ADHD showing up on the forum these days, and others whose partners/spouses show signs of ADHD. It is valuable to know some basic information about ADHD medications, as that is what most doctors will recommend as a way to work with ADHD symptoms. What follows is a very brief overview and is not intended in any way to replace your doctor’s recommendations in regard to medications.
Some Ways We Differ –ADHDer vs. non-ADHDer
ADHD, like so many things that people go through, exists on a continuum from more intense to less intense, and in addition, there are different types. There are those who are Inattentive (and may appear to be spacey), and those who are hyperactive/ impulsive, and those who are both at the same time. No two individuals with ADHD show up the same way.
When can a counselor help?
I am continually impressed with the enormous amount of support that is so generously shared on this website. The amount of care and concern that posters have for each other is just tremendous. And it’s great to see that it comes from both the ADHD/non-ADHD sides of the story. Each in her/his way, sharing perspectives that are so valuable to be heard.
Flooding and the Use of the Verbal Cue
Have you ever gotten flooded during an interaction with your partner when you felt so overwhelmed that you couldn’t seem to see straight? It can happen when it seems like the same material is coming up in an argument that you’ve been over and over again and again and you just can’t handle it any more. You know you should disengage, but somehow when you get to this point, it just seems impossible. Everything seems out of control. This is flooding. Flooding is defined as:
