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i listened to the author for an hour on YouTube and also read the book. I felt to totally inspired and felt hope for the first time in a long time. It was quickly squashed when my non - ADHD spouse told me she didn't want to listen to YouTube interview I found or read the book with me.  I tried really hard to ask for some time with her to do this because she has been so stone walled with me and when she said yes I was so happy.  But of course when I got home from work I was so worked up over feeling like I was going to say the wrong thing or mess it up and of course it happened.

I know this subject has been posted on, some time back, but I'd like to post a little more about it. An article came across my computer about passive-aggressive men, and even though my husband has severe ADHD, he is ALSO extremely passive aggressive. I read for at least 2 hours on everything I could find on passive-aggressiveness, and he does almost everything someone does when they have PA behavior. There's been so many things, I've been trying to figure out.........is he narcissistic.........is he bi-polar.......anything to explain his "absence" in our relationship.

I’m just dropping in because I’m curious about how everyone handles their ADHD partner’s mood swings / anger / tantrums. I understand each situation is different, but what I’m questioning for myself is when things escalate (and I mean, he starts taking his stress and anger out on me, arguing, snapping at everything), whether leaving the room and waiting for him to just “get over it” is unsupportive and avoiding dealing with things, even if remaining supportive and trying to talk him through and put up with it makes me feel like I’m stringing myself up to be a punching bag.

For five years I've been married to an add (hyperfocus), and NVLD man. It's the same old story as many of you have posted. I do everything, decide everything, become everything. He is a loving person underneath all of the disorders. I know he loves me and our daughter. But when is love not enough? When do the disorders become the way we are living life, and not the love? Someone on this site referred to my job as his wife correctly as the "ceo" of our family. He's always been good about holding a job-even though he's been through many, he's always worked.

If you are a people pleaser and have a spirit to serve others unless you are also very wise, you may be an easy target for a person who seeks Co-dependency and is skilled at manipulation and Control...I'm not saying all who live in this mind do it intentionally or are even totally aware of their intrusive life style...But, the reality and effect on others is the same non the less...

I have read several threads and commented on a few. I have bought all the books, and have read them all. Hubby has read some but doesn't see himself in any of the examples. He has been diagnosed with ADHD (not hyper though) and took the meds for three days. He said they were too much and didn't go back to the doctor. Side effects of racing heart. So that was almost a year ago.

I'm new on here and have been reading many, many of the posts and getting a lot from most of them.

I think that Melissa’s class would help my husband and me in our relationship and marriage, but I somehow don’t see him agreeing to spend the $289 or doing the work that would be required to make it successful. I’m pretty sure he does have a severe “case” of ADHD even without an “official” diagnosis.

When the children were young and now with our grandchildren, I now see that ADD may be playing a part in an activity that was irritating to me but I didn't know what it was.  Now I am seeing that he acts like a child when he is with children.  He is the roughest, loudest, most baby-talkish of the group.  He squeels and giggles and things ALWAYS get out of hand with someone ending up crying.  Then H stomps off saying it wasn't his fault and that I am crazy for being concerned.  I must decide each time how much I can tolerate.