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Anyone out there have any pearls of wisdom for the burned-out/angry/hopeless spouse of a physician with ADD & OCD who just can't seem to complete the required paperwork and is constantly running behind schedule during the day, being "dinged" by the EMR system for not going through emails/EMR completions in a timely manner, and who is probably about to be fired for the 4th time? Excellent physician, decades of practice, never sued, loved by patients (except the ones in the waiting room waiting an hour or two), admin people despise b/c of tardiness and piles of incomplete charts. HELP!!!

My wife has been diagnosed wi OCD & ADHD. She reacts to any situation that in stressful for her. This is fine within our relationship since she is working on this in counseling and I support her. Unfortunitally she has found a way to blame me for the situation that created the stress ... Even if the situation is not related to me. I think I am "safe" in her eyes so it's easy to default her angerr onto me. She is having a moment right now ... Thank to recent support on his forum ... I am looking at her stress as real to her instead of looking at it in the context of ADHD.

from everything. He left the business all together two months ago. And has been doing nothing but mope around and say he is going to figure out what he is going to do. Luckily I went back to work full time a few years ago. So we have my income but I dont make enough to cover all the bills plus the mortgage. I've borrowed from my 401k to pay off his business debt that we carried over. Plus 1/2 of the credit card debt. Which we have because he has no impulse control when it comes to money. He had bought a truck using one of our credit cards to pay for it.

Until recently I thought I had developed the proper skills to cope with my ADHD.  The reality is that I have not.

I am now living in my own apartment, away from my wife, and consuming any and all information I can find on ADHD, and marriage.  I picked up the book last night (an adventure in and of itself, 4 book stores later).  I have read it cover to cover once, and am on my second pass.  During this time I find that I am asking myself the same question over and over: "What right do I have to subject my non-ADHD wife to the life I have been?"  

My wife of 2 years has been diagnosed with OCD and ADHD. She is going to cognitive behavioral therapy which has helped although when she reacts to stressful situations, and finds away to make me apart of the problem. Reason goes out the window. In counseling we agreed that when I recognize that she has been "triggered" that I should say a word that we agree on and I leave for 1 hour. During this time she is supposed to fill out work sheets to help discover the root of her stress ... Hence excluding me as the problem. She will not do the work sheets.

Hey very helpful people,

 

I'm writing out of utter shame and despair. I, like us all, have a long story so I'll try my best to keep it brief. It's also hastily written.

I'm 30ish, living with ADHD(on Meds, Adderall), Learning Disability, panic disorder and PTSD from childhood sexual abuse.

Hello,

I am looking for help understanding how I can to some things better.  Recently, I have  had issues with inattentiveness, not listening, making up stories, etc.

This has been hurting the relationship between me and my wife to be.  It's got to a point where she does not believe I think she is special, she does not think I can change, and I don't consider her feelings.  

A lot of this not the day to day stuff but more of when we are not together. It's not being able to live in the "now" thinking in the moment.

Two years and three months post diagnosis and I have been reading, learning, posting, taking my meds without fail and being patient with my expectations about recovery and closeness to my DW. My situation is different from many hear on this site and the same. Repairing lost trust, remembering important dates, attention to my DW when she has had a bad day. I'm in a good mood most of the time. I'm proactive with projects and keep my deadlines. I read people better, I control my under-whelming and and over-whelming social personalities.

How do you know when it's time to wave goodbye?

How do you know when it's time to say, I will no longer pick up the emotional, financial, and relational pieces?

23 years of this is so stressful, his unemployment over the last 8 years is the most frustrating thing I have ever lived with. Thank God the good Lord has blessed me with a way to provide, but the difficulty of having to be  provider, mom, homework helper, encourager of the girls (now 17 and 20), mender of the sharp tongue that indiscriminately and impulsively lashes out is overwhelming.