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My husband has been diagnosed with adhd, anxiety, and depression. He has had outbursts where he punched doors, thrown things, pushed me. I blamed his disorder for his outbursts and we have tried to work on things together with the help of a counselor, psychiatrist, medication, and lifestyle changes. The worst of it happened early on while he was drinking. He quit drinkinking after he broke his hand in a particularly bad fight. He was still losing control when he became overwhelmed. Went with him to the doc and he said that his habitual marijuana use negates his meds.

I am the wife to a husband who has ADD and I am at the threshold of stepping over my husband's ADD and out of our marriage.  Since day one, we have been through things occurring over and over.  We've been married for almost 7 years, and since the beginning when things happen....it's my fault.  With just recently getting diagnosed with ADD over a year ago, I was a fool to think things would get better.  They do get better, but not for long before something happens or is said that is.....wait for it.........wait for it........yes, it's my fault!  I can say left, he'll say I said right!

I'm pruning this post, I admit to how dumb I sound and how wrong my behavior has been.

Every time I read this board I cry, cry and cry. I cry out of sadness, anger, confusion, and denial. The man I love with every bit of me decided that he was leaving because he was no longer interested in me; he felt that there was no romantic feeling in our relationship. I swear that every time I look at the ”six signs that ADHD is apart of your relationship” I feel like this is why my relationship didn't work. I wish he would read this board, do some research and STOP asking his friends for advice! My now ex-boyfriend was diagnosed with ADHD in his adult years.

I would be very interested in hearing some discussion on situations where both partners have ADHD. 

Hi everyone.

So here I am again...feeling sad and hopeless. My husband and I got into another argument over the phone and he hung up on me.

I'm at work and I am loathing going home. The rest of the day will be filled with upset and wasting hours of time being upset and defensive and not solving the initial problem until we are both so off topic and tired of arguing that we just go to sleep exhausted and with my husband feeling like nothing ever got solved and me secretly happy about it being over and hoping it will be forgotten about.

I've been married for over 10 years and have 3 children.

Wow, where do I start? I  can't believe I found this site.  I  finally  have reached clarity  after 35 years of an adhd marriage. Our marriage has all the symptoms in Melissa's book. The most damaging are my husband's outbursts,  his lack of emotional suppor ,my disconnecting  (for my own protection  ) and  my emotional repression. We have been in counseling off and on for years. I thought I found a wonderful counselor, but he never mentioned my husband's adhd as perhaps the root cause of our problems.

My husband started medication mid-Oct (100% for work issues, our marriage was better than it had been in many years). He started on Concerta. It made him irritable and it took me forever to convince him of this. He stopped but wanted to try another, so he started Vyvanse. It had the same affect on him, it made him really hostile and short fused. He took it long enough that I honestly thought I had lost him to the medication because he refused to see what it was doing and it wasn't an easy road getting there, but he did agree to try and stop taking it to see if it would help.