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I'll try to make this brief but this site has been so helpful!  I met a wonderful man, 50 years old (I am 40), 1.5 years ago, we got engaged about 6 months ago and the wedding is in 8 weeks.  We are both divorced, have children.  He is a brilliant man, skipped grades in school, a surgeon with his own practise. 

Earlier this week, my husband of nearly four years left me. He's been saying for ages that he's miserable, but couldn't communicate anything in an understandable way. It was all very nebulous, and I could tell he was really suffering and really frustrated. So was I, but I knew why I was unhappy--I felt like I wasn't married to a husband.

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I found a great book.  Alone in Marriage by Susie Larson.  I bought it a couple of years ago just because of the title.  Is there anyone married to someone with ADHD that doesn't feel alone some of the time or all of the time?  She writes "My purpose isn't to improve your marriage or even change your spouse."  I think every other book I've ever read was trying to do one or the other.  She has a section on "Weights that Wear You Down" with chapters on anger, worry, fear, and self-pity.  I found myself re-reading the chapter that corresponded with each changing feeling during the last couple

I have said this a number of times over the last decade, but am now truly at the end of my rope.  I need to set an ultimatum.  Either my husband sees a physician to get help for his ADHD or we need to get divorced.  Here is a bit of background.  He was told as a child that he had ADHD and I don’t think it was ever properly treated as his mother chalks it off to bad behavior and laziness.  I grew up with a brother who was diagnosed with it in the early 70’s (he was 5) and had all the support and care in the world for it.  I have witnessed the positive side of living with it

I have made the decision to leave and let me tell you, it's almost refreshing to know it's not about ADHD.

I love my girlfriend deeply and we have been together for a year and a half. I want to scream at times because she cannot keep her appointments or her conferences straight.

Again, last night, she sprang it on me "Oh, I have a conference in Albuquerque next Wednesday so I will be gone Tues night and be back Wednesday night." Why didn't you tell me this? "Well, they sent me the email but I think I deleted it and didn't remember until they sent me a reminder this week."

I'm 26 and the wife of a loving man who is unbelievably intuitive, smart, creative and has ADHD. He has helped me grow as a person so much but i feel like i cant even begin to help him. I dont understand the way he thinks and regardless of how much i read... how much i try to change my own actions and take over the things that annoy me when he cannot or will not do them... i am now faced with another problem that scares me more.

Hi there.  I wasn't sure where to post an introductory message so I will include it with this post.  My husband has undiagnosed ADD but since both his daughter and son have it (from a previous marriage), and he exhibits plenty of the signs, we just assume he has ADD (we also have a daughter together which I hope she does not end up having ADD as well).  Counselling is not in the budget at this time so we just deal with things as they come along.  For the most part, things are pretty good.  There was a time when I wanted to leave but we worked through that and things have been much better fo

This is somewhat similar to apollo's post from a year ago, but I was just wondering if anybody had tips for dealing with the problem of the ADD partner's ability to participate fully in a conversation and yet have no memory of it.