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Sorry I'm posting this in this area but no one seems to read the stuff under therapy/help and all that :)

Good day, everyone,

Thanks for providing a place to read and talk about these issues. My husband and I will have been married 5 years next Friday. The problems with his ADHD are just becoming more acute, however. I am trying to turn things around so we can make some progress.

I found this site a while back and it prolonged my marriage to my ADHD/OCD/Bipolar husband.  Unfortunately I stopped coming here because it seemed better when I was taking all responsibility and giving him room to be a man with emotional/mental illness.

I'm a little angry.

OK so a few weeks ago we discovered my husband of 5 years has ADD (maybe ADHD, I dunno).  It came as such a shock but it all made complete sense, every single one of our furstrations we saw was stemming from this.  Anyway, we finally made an appointment with a therapist who specializes in ADD.  I'm excited, but nervous.  My husband has been to therapy before for another issue years ago, but I've never done it before.  What can we expect the first time?  We are going together, but will they probably want to see him by himself as well?  I hear the first session can be really long, like 2 hour

Well I had an entire post ready for the resources thread and the net ate it!  I figured maybe there'd be more views here and it does deal with my greatest source of anger surrounding my husband's ADD--His apparant refusal to do the work to move past frustrating ADD behaviors.

I may be married longer than anyone on this forum - 45 yrs. I stuck it out the first half because my husband, Mike, convinced me I was "damaged" and just couldn't handle life. So, for yrs. I sought help. It didn't occur to me that my condition was due to abuse. I'm sure that was because my dad was abusive, as well.

Early on, we had a son. He's 44 now and we haven't heard from him in yrs. Our grandchildren don't know us. My son had a crying and depressed mother and a rejecting and abusive father.

Dr. Ratey diagnosed my husband 17 years ago, back before many people even knew what ADHD was.  17 years later, we have bought, renovated and sold, four homes, and therefore have moved that many times. My husband left 2 lucrative jobs, opened and closed 2 of his own businesses, and has worked at a commission based job for about 2 years now (translation: no salary). Financially we are a mess.  Currently I work about 50 hours a week to keep up with bills and keep food on the table. I'm tired all the time and my relationship with my children feels not as close as it once was.

Once they're diagnosed, how often do ADDers "figure it out" or "man up" ("woman up"?) and take responsibility for themselves and the damage their condition has done? How often are they really aware of what they've done, apologize, and make amends? Or is it usually hopeless--do you really just have to give up and walk away?

Well,  I cant beleive i am actuall contributing to these forums, finally the day came(yesterday) that my partner (who I diagnosed with adhd) and i went to the psychaiartrist and after an hour and a half of conversations with him, he said...."now ADHD is very very hard to diagnose, but i must say...in this situation, you are the exception to the rule".....

My husband, 33, has just been diagnosed with a pretty severe case of ADD and probably some other issues (through SPECT analysis).  We have been struggling for 2 years, I finally had to have him leave the house Friday because he was accusing me of being an insensitive person and treating him badly and insulting my "character."   I told him that we have a lot of stress but neither one of us is a bad person.  You know where this is going.  I refuse to let him end this relationship because he overthinks.  Not until he's under some good medicine and therapy.  Anyway, he has had an appointment wi