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Background: Relationship for 2.5 yrs. Lots in common and we were together or else email and talking on the phone. We had a strong attraction to each other. We were eachothers support. He started his own green company that keeps him stressed literally 24/7. His job is his life. Diagnosed with ADD a year ago. Takes Ritalin. He has read books like Driven to Distraction, but unfortunately, during our relationship, we never discussed how this Diagnosis impacts us.

I'm new here and going through the same issues many of you are currently or have previously.

My husband and I have been married 5 years. The relationship was rocky and drama-filled from day 1. He was verbally abusive and at times physically threatening (he never hit me, but broke things). He cheated on me repeatedly. He used drugs and drank too much. He was addicted to pornography. He has been marginally employed or unemployed for the entire time we've been together, despite us being in dire financial straits at times.

Hi Everybody (or whoever reads this!) My wife & I (bless her) have been married 47 years in Oct09. Now that's some distance you'll have to agree! For some time now, my long-suffering wife has contended that I suffer from ADHD and that I need to receive some sort of treatment. Now, I'm not averse to treatment ... in fact I may love it! But AM I REALLY suffering ADHD, or am I suffering from the trauma of being over 65 years of age (or at the time her comments started ... was I suffering the trauma of being over 45 years of age?)

I'm new here on this forum.  I'm 45, married 20 years with 2 children.  I was tested and diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago and was on adderall XR for most of that time.  About 10 months ago, my dr changed me to regular Adderall because I was having trouble sleeping at night.  I've also been on focalin for about 10 months for anxiety/depression.  My problem with the ADHD is that I was constantly jumping from thing to thing, I could not finish a project if my life depended on it.  Well, I could if it was due the next day and then I'd stay up all night gettig it done.  The adderall seemed to

After 25 years of marriage and three children, my husband and I are separating.  He has ADHD...confirmed by a psychiatrist...but denies it.  Treatment of any kind is out of the question as he won't make time for counseling and refuses to consider meds or other tx's.  There are many other issues in our marriage (of course) but ADHD is, by far, the most significant and the worst.  I'm trying to come to grips with our upcoming separation and also trying to understand how my husband's thinks...or acts...the way he does.  I hope posters here can help.  

Okay, I have read all these accommodations we (the non ADD spouse) can make in trying to be sympathetic to our ADD spouses. I try real hard to "pick my battles" and determine what is tolerable, let it go and what is not. So my husband is really forgetful, I try to be helpful with gentle reminders to a point but the things that don't really affect me I just let go, like the fact that he hasn't had his teeth cleaned in over two years or he forgets to mail a birthday card or call for his mom, dad, sister, ect. However, there are some things I just cannot accept as tolerable.

My husband takes both Concerta and Wellbutrin. He has a bad habit of not putting the caps on tight when he takes them. We have cats that climb on the counter (I know that's not good but I can't figure out how to stop it) and I'm afraid the cats will knock them on the floor and either the cats or the dog will eat them. Does anyone know if that would harm an animal? Does anyone know how to get him to remember to put the caps on?

I went out this morning while my husband was getting ready for work. When I came back, I heard the washer running. He had actually put a load of laundry together and put it in the wash without me asking! He was looking through all his pants for his wallet and realized he had enough for a load. To someone without ADD it sounds minor, but the fact that he could figure out that he needed to do them, because they are his pants, without prompting from me, is a great step. Only the spouse of an ADD person would understand this post.

Hi all would appreciate some much needed advice.

My wife and I are in our mid to late thirties and have been married for 4 years. Though things have not been perfect we have managed to let things be ok.   I recently found out I was ADD big time but only after suffering job losses and failures. My wife had enough of my job problems and financial as a consequence and reached a point of no return. She thinks ADD is an excuse and will not get involved with it in any way, for her it does not justify my problems.

"Blaming or making rigid demands on others, the world and one’s self is the core of most emotional problems. Also we waste a lot of time waiting for the world to meet our demands.  We have to deal with the world as it is, not as we wish it were."