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Hey everyone 

im new here and love reading the other posts. I'm not married to this guy but I've been in a relationship with him and I've been hurt badly.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD in February. He hid the diagnosis from me (he said its a private matter, and he’s very secretive by nature) and I only found out because I found the tablets. 

There’s a backdrop of him blindsiding me with things in our relationship - his impulsive behaviour / not thinking through the consequences is as a result of his ADHD, but hiding his diagnosis was almost the final straw for me. We have two young kids, one of whom is struggling at school - so his diagnosis is relevant and it is not a private matter in my mind.  

I am close to my breaking point.  Has anyone has had experience about divorce proceedings with someone with ADHD? Its so difficult to accomplish anything with my spouse that I cant imagine how difficult it wil be to go through a divorce (splitting assets, signing documents, etc). Any tips? Thanks

I have been married to my ADHD husband for 13 years (no kids thank god!).  We met at work and although he had his quirks, he was (and is a brilliant guy). However thing have gotten  bad in the last 6 years. He hyper analyzes everything, up to the point that it is difficult to make  decisions. And he knows everything (so forget about therapy, coaching, etc). I read what others post here and I see my relationship with my husband.  He was caring at first, not anymore. He has become really aggressive every time I said something that requires his attention.

Hey everyone,

This is my first post. I’ve read and lurked for a good long while.  Finding solace in shared experiences.

Can we talk about running away? My grown adult husband has run away several times now in the last few years. RUN AWAY! As in twice I had to file missing persons reports, other times I didn’t. One of those times after he was found as he was crawling back home after a 23 hour over the top meltdown, we then got to sit in the hospital for 18 hours with no help after the police found him and brought him to the ER. (Covid has the ER packed and psych couldn't get to him)

I've recently entered into a new relationship with a fantastic person who has ADHD and autism. When we are together, and can talk face-to-face, then the relationship is one of the best I've ever had. She is kind, caring, a fantastic Mum, and everything I want in a partner. She is also incredibly strong, and very independent.

"Avoidance is an unhealthy practice and when we have the courage to face something terrible that courage is rewarded with the gift of a deeper connection to our inner wisdom."

I'm pretty sure that my husband is showing ADHD symptoms, but he doesn't think so.

I've tried giving him examples and all he says is that " he's special " then tries to laugh it off. And will say he's not ADHD.

How do i get him to realize what he does is affecting our relationship, I don't want us to split up, we've only been married 18 months, but as it stands at the moment, because life has become difficult and I'm also going through some hormone changes being Peri-menopausal, he blames a lot of the way we feel on me, and i don't know how much i can cope with this.

My partner walked out on our 25 year marriage 4 weeks ago. He was diagnosed with ADHD in May after our adult sos diagnosis, and is still waiting to start the medication process. We have been having problems in our marriage for a while now and were trying to reconnect. More unsuccessfully than i realized.  I now feel having found Melissa's book that I was so fixated on healing the disconnection that I was probably unintentionally pressuring him into doing things with me rather than give him the space he may have needed to heal.