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Every couple has their thing, for my husband and I it's coffee. He didn't drink it much when we first met but I did and yeah. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. We don't roast our own beans or anything (now grinding the beans, umm yeah!) but we like to enjoy a cup in the morning to start the day. He prefers the coffee from the same gas station and really only drinks it at home if it's the 'right' kind like the last sentence. That's a whole thing lol. Its good coffee but I don't mind making it at home.

What does that word mean to me? In theory it works like this, I did something really bad that adversely affected someone else. We come to a point where they tell me they are no longer going to focus on that thing I did. Doesn't mean they forget or that it doesn't still hurt, just means they won't focus on it.

My life: my husband and I have been married/together for close to ten years. We have a four year old. He works and so do I. I am going taking classes to make a better life for my family. I don't want my husband to work anymore. I don't want him tired day in and day out. 

Recently - within the last year - my husband was diagnosed with ADHD. For some background, We have been together for 5+ years and we moved where we are at the beginning of 2020 so he could pursue an acting career with my full support. He has been in several background roles but otherwise had not been working. When we first came here he got a full time job that he quit after like 3 months or so due to terrible management issues within the company and having not enough time to pursue acting the way he wanted. In the past he has quit all of his jobs for a similar reason/him hating the career.

Hi all - first post after finding this via Google.

I've read a lot of posts that give me great comfort in knowing I am not alone in this, but also a lot of fear that things really do not change and if I should carry on with this relationship.

I met my husband in 2016, he was diagnosed with ADHD in 2018 and we married in 2019.  I feel like his diagnosis has been detrimental to our marriage as ever since it's like his symptoms have been heightened and as if he plays up to it or hides behind it rather than taking control.

Hello all,

So this just happened:

H has not worked for a few years. Retired.  He used to have a business that he conducted from a large room we call the office.  It is piled high with things like receipts from 5 to 25 years ago - dirty and musty papers and decades old files all over.  No horizontal space open. I have been telling him that I would like to clean it up and use the room as a craft room/tv-room.  We have a living room, dining room and a very large den.  This room is now a very large hoarding storage space that it is impossible to clean. It is starting to smell.

Hello everyone,

I m new here and I feel so much relief that I found this forum...The words I m reading here pretty much give me answer on everything and make me realize I m not the only one feeling that way.

I don t know why I m writing but I think my heart just wants to cry out.

I have a medical backround and do not put a stamp on him or anyone with any "illness".

Hello 

I'm reaching out to people who were previously in relationships where the partner has adhd. Mine ended in the last couple of weeks, I'm sleeping so much better and can make sense of things logically but do miss him and my heart feels broken. 
I know every story is different but how long did it take to feel less consumed by it, did they ever try and mess with your head to come back and have you gone on to have a relationship with an a typical partner and hope that compares? 
thanks