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Hi again, I've been posting a lot because I'm entirely alone (not one single family member or friend) and one of my major issues is deciding where my boundaries should be as a wife of a severe ADHD-er,  how much I'm supposed to endure, and if I should keep trying or truly get away. Having outside perspective helps very much so thanks in advance one again for reading/helping.

So please tell me what you would do:

He’s untreated for his ADHD. It’s pretty bad. 

My kids have ADHD. I’m working to get them the therapy and meds they need. I run everything around here, except the job part. (I am truly thankful that he can earn a nice living right now and does so.)

So...

Guy with ADHD here. Figured it out Jan 2017 and diagnosed with it March 2018. Since learning of my ADHD I've been trying everything I gain control over my life out so God willing I'll share over time tips I've learnt to make ADHD more bearable to live with.

Question: who is doing something for themselves this weekend?  Many of us may have Monday off, so...anything fun??  I dread the weekends--absolutely hate them so I make plans for myself.  This weekend my 17 year old (senior in high school) is working all day all three days.  He is a token taker at the boat launch by us and most of the college students who work at the beach have gone back so he picked up extra shifts.  Lifeguards are done this weekend, too.  So he will be occupied all weekend.

My wife has previously accepted that Orlov's book described a lot of what is happening in our marriage and even told our kids that she, like them, has ADHD.

Then she went to a psychiatric nurse and "only answered the questions she asked" and was told she is depressed, not ADHD.

I kept imploring her to tell the nurse about all the symptoms I have noticed.  She started seeing a new nurse and kept forgetting to discuss the symptoms--just answering the questions she was asked. 

My husband (who has a diagnosis of severe ADHD) had parents who were abusive/alcohilic/neglectful, but the one thing he valued was that they loved each other no matter what and stayed together till the end. So despite their dysfunctional, hurtful, abusive relations with each other, he believes love should be enough and no matter what happens you should stay with them until the end.

And after one month separated hes in the open relationship he asked for with someone else. We've been married for 14 years. Both of us had traumatic experiences in our early childhoods which were especially difficult due to family alcoholism. Being with him was like a breath of fresh air after home life. They say you should live independently before marrying and now I think they're right. 

All of this in the past week-none of these things are mind blowing, just holy wow--makes me wonder.  So earlier in the week we ordered out for Thai food from a place we order from all the time--I know what we all order and I have an account with Grub Hub-credit card saved, address info saved, everything.  DH did the ordering.  He could not figure out Grub Hub and when he finally did, two of the four orders were completely wrong, like he had to call and have the restaurant come back with the correct food.  What is so hard??

Dear young ones, I just heard a speaker say that the thing men find most attractive in a woman is that she keeps to her standards.  Here is a great lesson to all you younger wives.  I don't know it if goes both ways.  Standards was not one of the things on my list when I fell in love with my husband at a very young age.  I was naive.  I valued sense of humor, physique and words of affection.  Silly me. Standards!  I took so much for granted, like standards. I thought all people tried their hardest to make a marriage work and be a good spouse.

Hello All,