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DH is the ADHD spouse..

It was never that big of an issue-the forgetfulness, the funny quirks...

Truly, it is the disconnect. The dropped communications, lack of follow through on commitments, never seeing the trees, maybe just the forest... never fully manifesting feelings and thoughts of love and consideration.

My wife came by my workplace for lunch today.  While we were eating, she asked me about a coworker who left her position yesterday:  "Did [manager] drive her out too?"  

Yes, just what I need, to have the manager who is making things difficult hear what I have told my wife about the situation.  Fortunately, only the person serving the lunch as there at the time.  I pointed the problem out to my wife and she apologized for "not thinking."

The result of the meeting was the psychologist/psychiatric nurse saying that many of my wifes behaviors could be ADHD, but she did not think trying medication was warrented--at least until we tried non-medical treatments.  She also said she would read the list of behaviors I made.  My wife took this as "She says I don't have ADHD."

I met someone two months ago we were on honeymoon status until she said something was bothering her about us she didn't know what it was . I immediately asked her calmly what was wrong and she told me she wasn't ready to talk yet . That she would tell me when she was ready . I asked her to please tell me as I knew it was going to torture me with anxiety . She continued to refuse . That's when the hulk came over..

Do any of you other non-ADHD spouses have tips for feeling cherished/appreciated/loved by your spouse? 

I'm just here to vent; I know people on this forum understand the challenges of living with (or no longer living with) a person with ADHD, and I appreciate that very much.

HI there, I have been following this post for quite a long time to understand and support what I see and think my wife struggle with ADD is.

I've worked very hard over the last 5 years to try and understand what is going on in my wife's mind, how to deal with it, and way's to stop the conflict between us....I did most everything wrong the first 5 years of our marriage...I was lost, offended, and had no clue about this dead end, and hopeless mindset...(denial)...Fast forward to the last 5 years, and the place we've come today, is light years better than those early years.....Why?....Has she changed?

A couple of months ago, I gave my wife a list of possible psychiatrists who have experience with adult ADHD.  She "left a couple of messages" for one of them, but did not follow up--too busy!

Earlier this week, I went on psychology today.  I reached out to woman she tried to contact and heard back shortly.  Unfortunately, she is not taking new patients.

Hi everyone! I’m new to this forum and looking for advice. Is there such a thing as relationship counselling with an adult ADHD expert? I’ve been looking for ages and either the websites are out of date or there are huge long lists of therapists that seem to focus on general couples stuff and in our case that has been tried numerous times and failed. We need couples counselling from someone that appreciates / understands some of the ADHD symptoms, impacts and strategies for addressing them. We’re in south London UK.  Thanks if you can steer me in the right direction x