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Spouse of ADHD partner, looking for community in navigating this. Help!

Husband formally diagnosed 3 years ago, medicated, but no therapy/counseling, sadly I may likely know way more about ADHD and its effects at this point, as I've read a ton, and actually been going to a counselor who specializes in ADHD to help me understand what I'm dealing with, and validate that its not just me losing my mind!

A neurologist recently told my wife that our 9-year-old daughter may be on the autism spectrum.  He wants to get an MRI done.

This weekend, I went with her on an annual father/daughter camping trip we have done for the last three years.  On Saturday night, she refused to put her shoes on despite the fact that it was raining and muddy.  The shoes she wore earlier had gotten wet on a raft trip--as if walking barefoot in cold mud has so much better.  She also had dry, almost new shoes that we bought on vacation a few weeks ago. No, they had sand in them and were not cleaned enough.

The heading of this forum really needs to change--there is no communication with ADHD, none.  DH, me and the 17 year old are headed to a movie this afternoon.  DH came in with his laptop to order the tickets online.  I told him the credit card number, etc., and he ordered them.  I said we should leave about noon to get to the mall (I have to drop my laptop off for service in the same mall) and then head to the movie.  He gets done putting in the credit card info and tells me the total then says so what time do you want to leave for the mall?

Hello All,

I am 39 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD 4 weeks ago and have had the usual veil lifted.  I am currently taking a time release Adderall, low dose and I have been referred to a CBT.  All good things I know.  Honestly I am looking forward to learning more than I have and working diligently to accept and grow with having an actual diagnosis.  

Since most ADHDers don't exhibit all symptoms, I wondered which common ADHD symptoms you might either be grateful you don't have (as a person with ADHD) or grateful your spouse does not exhibit (as the partner of someone with ADHD).

For me, my husband is not an impulsive spender. He still does not hold traditional employment or contribute enough to our household income, but he is very frugal and careful with his/our money. Despite the many other ADHD symptoms present, I am very grateful for that.

My ex-husband said to me once or twice, "I can barely take of myself."  This came after I felt at the end of my rope and shared with him how stressful it was and how sad I felt that he was not contributing more to the family via financial, emotional, and logistical support. It was devastating for me to hear him say this but humiliating, I'm sure, for him to reveal it.  

Just wondering if there are any other Canadians on these boards. I sense that the resources for ADHD are different here than in the States. Not quite sure where to put this.

Hi again, I've been posting a lot because I'm entirely alone (not one single family member or friend) and one of my major issues is deciding where my boundaries should be as a wife of a severe ADHD-er,  how much I'm supposed to endure, and if I should keep trying or truly get away. Having outside perspective helps very much so thanks in advance one again for reading/helping.

So please tell me what you would do:

He’s untreated for his ADHD. It’s pretty bad. 

My kids have ADHD. I’m working to get them the therapy and meds they need. I run everything around here, except the job part. (I am truly thankful that he can earn a nice living right now and does so.)

So...

Guy with ADHD here. Figured it out Jan 2017 and diagnosed with it March 2018. Since learning of my ADHD I've been trying everything I gain control over my life out so God willing I'll share over time tips I've learnt to make ADHD more bearable to live with.