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So here's what I know.  I went to Dr Amen's site to take the test on ADHD sub groups/types, after reading the blog on Cortisol and ADHD, which linked my hearing loss and childhood ear infections to my ADHD, which separated the 3 types of ADHD ( hyper, inattentive, combined) and connected and isolated my behaviors more distinctly with being  predominantly hyper in combination with the hearing thing....more or less.  It was enough to make me go take this test in other words.  And here's what it came up with:

I googled the words "partnering with spouse who doesn't".  And the first site that came up is add.org. with an article written by Melissa.  She includes  "Six steps to Nurturing A True Partnership." http://www.add.org/page/ADHDandMarriage  All of this and Melissa's messages are about TWO people working together.  One cannot do it alone in a RELATIONSHIP no matter how good a non-ADD spouse is at responses, no matter how hard ad ADDer tries, ONE person ALONE cannot do a partnership.

Looking around this site I see that there are three recurring things people complain about with ADHD more than others. Before I get diagnosed and get professional help here is my strategy to go it alone: 1) to do lists Am I right in saying that we bite off more than we can chew and leave lots of lose ends rather than completed tasks at the end of the day? My goal here will be to do two planned things and one reactionary thing each at home and work every day. No more than that.

SERIOUSLY.  Where is that line...?  and who gives them the "right" ..  the {Judge} of. I'm struggling with myself right now.  really struggling for the answer .  time enough to fuel myself enough to just finish to diny amout left.  Just to do it.  Finish This.  I was thinking earlier (argued with myself whether I should post it as in (my thoughts) right then. Obviously...it won but look at me now!!  Posting about it.  HEHEHEHeheh.  Full circle.  

Sorry...will read more before I post 

This is my first post (although I did write a reply earlier). I am an undiagnosed adhd male in my second relationship. My wife, a good person by all accounts, has become the same angry, hurtful and physically aggressive person that many of the wives and girlfriends on this forum have become. I, in turn, clearly am the idiot with the same mental illness that the husbands they refer to are. Shockingly, I read through a dozen posts and their comments only to realize how much of an evil bastard I have inadvertently been all this time.

So living with my ADHD husband there are so many phrases that I hear that make me want to run screaming into the street.  Some of the phrases I could live without ever hearing again include:  I just didn't think about it.  I didn't do it on purpose.  I've got it covered (when the opposite is true).  No, did you ask me to?  No, did you tell me to?  I can't remember saying/doing that.  I can't remember you saying/doing that.  I didn't finish...whatever.  I'll do it tomorrow/later (when we know it's NEVER).  And my most favorite: I forgot.  Man am I tired of hearing all of those phrases.

2014 was the year of his secret bank account (since closed when discovered). The year he asked me to get a form notarized so he could take some $ out of his work IRA to pay kid's tuition--and seemed astounded when I found and read the missing  pages of the document and realized I'd be signing off all rights to my share of his pension (and I didn't sign that paper).