Does anyone else get this?
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He says that I have changed... I know I have changed, but only because I do not trust a single word that comes out of his mouth!
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Where does all the Guilt and Shame come from?
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Guilt and Shame seem to be the common denominators to much of issues and reactions.
Where is it coming from? What is the genesis?
I suspect that those with ADHD (either inattentive, impulsive or combo) have had a life-long history of having "normal" folks commenting and correcting them. I think from a young age they have had to listen to people say, "why did you do that"? or "what were you thinking" or "you need to pay attention" or "you broke that because you weren't careful," and so forth and so forth.
Is that where it all started?
How to cope when your spouse is on a rage?
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H has been so good over the past few months. Never angry, always going to work. This Monday I came home and he was obviously upset about something as he was very terse with me. I knew something was wrong within 30 seconds of walking through the door just by the way he spoke to me. I'm 99.9% sure it's work. He didn't say anything to me about why he was upset that night. The next day he went to work and came home 2 hours later. I see he texted his manager that he didn't feel well and threw up twice. I hardly think so. I think he was frustrated with his coworkers.
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First time here am I being unreasonable ? Marriage will not last if he can't change please help!
I have been married for over 17 years we have three kids, he is the love of my life. When we were dating I noticed a pattern of lies, money issues, and rage issues (road rage ) .
I must go back several years for this to make sense.
My husband had had 7 (yes 7) failed busineses. For the first several years we lived with my parents, during that time he had an emotional affair with a woman for 2 years I begged for him to stop, tried to tell him how he was ruining our marriage. All night phone conversations , phone sex, lies with her contributed to my feelings.
It's not me, right?? Should I stay or go?
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Hi! I'm new here, and while I have learned A LOT so far (the books have helped me to feel like I was able to decode a language I couldn't speak before), I am stuck in trying to decide what to do. I apologize in advance for the length of this post - believe it or not, it's the short version! Lol
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Came home to an angry husband last night and everything I did upset him!
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I am SO tired of these episodes. We haven't had one in about 2 months and he's been really good about controlling his anger. We had a great night the night before and he was pleasant in the morning before he left for work so obviously something or someone at work upset him. He acts all nonchalant when I get home like "Oh hey it's you". Yup it's me because it's only us here! Then I take a shower and get out and he proceeds to tell me how much the kittens are annoying him today by running around him while he's on the computer and trying to jump up on his lap.
ADHD and bouts of depression
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I know that people with ADHD are prone to depression, but it's something I've never put "together" with my own husband's ADHD. But he DOES have depression, and sometimes absolutely nothing gets him out of it. I've started logging just WHEN he gets his rounds of depression. They seem to hit him about every 6 to 8 weeks, and it lasts about a week to 10 days. QUESTION: Is this a "usual" pattern for ADHD'ers? Do they have repetitive BOUTS of depression, or is there depression most of the time?
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I'm a Confused, Frustrated & Fed-Up Non-ADHD Husband
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So I've been reading a lot of these posts, many of which are Non-ADHD women with ADHD husbands. I am a Non-ADHD husband and am at my whit's end. I really don't even know where to begin or what to say here, other than the fact that I am confused, frustrated, tired, and just plain fed-up. My wife is a stay-at-home mom, and I work from a home office. Overall, I am frustrated with my wife's significant lack of homemaking skills which include general cleaning & organizing, decorating, planning, etc. The appearance and cleanliness of our home does not seem to matter to her in any way wh
Can't rely on spouse
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The previous thread has become difficult to follow and comment on....so...
My H never been reliable, but he gets even worse when he knows it will hurt me. For instance, if he's supposed to help us get ready for something that he's agreed to doing, then he will use that to get what he wants. "I've decided that I won't help with that (or go to that) unless you apologize for (something that I didn't do!)"
It's gotten to the point that I refuse to give him these opportunities.
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Hyperfocus Relapse?
I finally managed to get my Husband to a counselor who recognizes ADD, the counselor actually did extensive research and is really understanding our situation, my Husband is scheduled with a Psychiatrist for meds. Nevertheless, that's as far as it went, and I lost hope. He wouldn't do anything beyond that, no discussions at home, kept avoiding having me involved in "his" counseling, and started to back off his belief that he even has ADD. After much thought, and reading a lot of the posts here, as well as my books and the books on Co-Dependency, I went to our last session (against his wi
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