Recently there's been debate on the forum on whether it's irresponsible to carry on with problem-ridden ADHD-non marriages. When it's hard, should we just end things?
I'm currently in a marriage of ten years that has been gradually going downhill for the past 8 years. My wife and I got together when we both had young kids from previous marriages, and I feel like we did a great job of raising a stepfamily despite all of those challenges that come with being a stepfamily. Now, two of our three kids are off in college and the youngest (my stepson) is 16. So, he hardly needs (or wants) our continual attention, but he does need care like any kid.
This is just bizarro world. We've been together for 5 years. Been through many sessions of couples therapy and have made a lot of progress, and lately it's been all success stories. We had been really happy lately. An old conversation/issue escalated in the last week - and I will admit that the peak of the escalation was my fault - but that was it for him.
I'm reading a lot of comments on here which hit someone with ADHD really hard.
My husband has ADHD. Yesterday it turned out again that he forgot to turn off the auto-renewal of the unnecessary service, and a sum of money was deducted from us just like that. Because it ignores warning messages. I was on nerves all day yesterday. Today I was involved in a traffic accident. And it turned out that my husband mixed up the dates and we don’t have car insurance for this week. We'll have to pay for the repairs yourself. This has been going on for many years. He doesn't exercise, he doesn't meditate, he doesn't take any obvious steps to work with his ADHD. At the same
After a 15month trial separation, i filed for divorce. Its over or maybe the fight has just begun.
From the point of realising he had ADHD It took him 3months to get a diagnosis, a further 6months to get medicine and 10months to start therapy. I started therapy may 2022, he started september 2023. He let me fight all alone. If it was important to him, he would have tried.
On the 3rd, she sat me down and told me it she was ending things. I'm acting the way I wish I can look back and be proud of. We have a daughter, 3 years old, were both exhausted, we have had other emotional issues going on and I can't stop trying to talk about them because I felt her pulling away so I chased after her. I've made every mistake possible, then began the ADHD effect on marriage yesterday and it's so triggering because it's just too late, but so accurate.
My husband is self-employed. He runs a fairly successful business and we usually do pretty well. He had a charge back on a popular vendor website a long time ago, it recently caught up with him and they shut his shop down. The amount was quite high and he has not been able to pay it back yet so he can reopen his shop. We process all orders through our own website and processors now, but the vendor site was his main advertising. He hasn't had a sale since early November and we're starting to feel the squeeze. That's not to say he hasn't had any interest. There are still plenty of inqu
Today I almost broke down when I met my ex-husband shortly. Even though I reminded myself what he's done, and kept my boundary. He came at me smiling, kind and glowing.
So this is who I've divorced. The man whom I've loved for so long. Excuse me, Cantgoback who said the other day that I'm codependent and wrong to call it love.
We are homeowners. Things need repair.
Can the very intelligent man that is my husband stop suggesting that his young sons (who of course have no repair experience) fix the problem, without his help or direction?
Just had to tell the people who understand the things that are said and done to avoid the boring tasks that adhd brains don't enjoy.
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