Hi everyone,
Just wanted to vent a little and pick your brains, my partner is awaiting a diagnosis... but its pretty evident they have adhd. Reflecting back and looking into adhd we both agree, for me it has helped with the feeling isolated, angry, frustrated and many more emotions and feelings. I myself have mental health issues which impact on our fragile marriage, I love my partner and although I'm burnt out and never feel like I get that moment... where my partner has a realisation they have behaved a certain way that has left me feeling lonely, not desirable and like I'm not there. I still find myself feeling like an acknowledgment of my feelings would help to heal some of the wounds emotionally I carry, I think my question I really wanted to ask. Was in relation to my partners need for drama. I will try and explain the best I can, basically we have a young daughter... sometimes she can push our buttons and sometimes as ashamed as I am to admit I'm not as patient as I should be or caring as I shoul be... I can be a bit short and grumpy. I always apologise, have a big cuddle and reinforce to my daughter how sorry I am, humility is a big thing for me. My partner though, will act like I have just committed the worst crime imaginable and not in parity to whats just happened. Its like their perception is off or they see something completley different, but will themselves act in the same way but not see what they have blamed me for. Another thing is my partner causing mayhem and trouble, an example would be that we reach a point... marriage is doing great, family is great and everyone is happy. But my partner will tell her family lies or exaggerations, or my partner will phone social services up and tell them things that haven't happened. To a degree I can make sense of my partner telling her family things, my partner has a very broken relationship with their mother and siblings and craves their attention and validation. On occasions were my partner has lied she has had her famy fussing over her and she gets her needs met. But involving social services has led to me being asked to leave the family home whilst investigations are made, this has been traumatic and led to a decline in my health and caused me untold pain and anguish. We are now onto the 5th time of having social services involved, I can only describe it as a munchausens by proxy type of behaviour. Has anyone else had similar experience, is it an adhd behaviour or is it something else. I love my partner and after 9 years together and 3 years of this extreme behaviour... its taking its toll on me...