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My wife and I have been having struggles around yelling, and perceptions about yelling. When she is angry or frustrated, she often responds by yelling. When I ask her not to yell, she often says "I'm NOT yelling!" Or she responds even more loudly "THAT wasn't yelling. THIS is yelling?" Or she replies sarcastically "Oh, give me a break." When she responds in any of those usual ways, I feel belittled and dismissed, which then gets ME angry, and things just escalate. I've been trying to get her to see that what doesn't feel like yelling to her, DOES feel like yelling to me.

I know this is similar to other posts but I would still love some feedback from wiser married women who have found more success in managing their lives with ADHD

I posted on here before , but I'm still struggling.

I had a stupid emotional/semi physical affair with a really dbag type of guy who I had crush on at the beginning of dec12. 

Since that time my husband has done a 180 . He is forgiving and the person I have always dreamed about. He treats me amazing, he is very affectionate and loving, doesn't complain loves to help me . 

I have severe ADHD.   I am the mother of 3 children. 2 out of the 3 have ADHD. My oldest is 19 and disabled. He has ADHD/Bipolar/Developmental delay/Learning disabled/ODD. My daughter does not have anything.  My youngest is 8 with just ADHD.  I need help. Im trying my best to manage mine with meds, therapy, coaching. I am responsible for helping manage my sons. So I have 3 people I am trying to help manage. MY problem is my husband. Even though he knows my difficulties, He refuses to help or be of support in any way. I am responsible for everything!

Hi,

This seminar is helping us a lot as long as my ADHD spouse takes the prescribed ADHD meds. When the meds are skipped, this is when the coursework is most relevant and when my spouse is least likely to be open to it. The catch 22s of ADHD drive me up a wall.... the person who is least likely to remember to take meds is the one who most needs to take them. 

I am trying not to parent and to simply say, "When you don't take your meds, this is what it's like for me." 

Lots of anger; thankful for meds.

Does this happen to anyone? Advice?

I am the non-ADHD spouse.

At this point I can say whole heartedly that I HATE ADHD. I hate loving someone that will never get what you need them to get! I hate the blank stares and broken compromises. I hate the excuses that I can see right through. But most of all, I hate that the man I love will compromise on a big issues in our relationship and the very next week he breaks it for the 10th time! Is this normal to not be able to compromise? He knows his behavior with other women hurts me but he is constantly bringing them into our relationship. Example...we went out for the first time in 4 months to a local pub.

My spouses family has generations of depression, alcoholism and suicide, we have argued for years about responsibilities and poor financial decisions. Recently I was made aware of Adult ADHD. My marriage is in trouble. My wife resents the issues we have had through our marriage and is contemplating divorce. As this is happening I am trying to get my son tested for the issues he has that appear to be ADHD, he is 2o yrs old.

My DH was diagnosed with ADD in college, but to be honest, I didn't take it very seriously for many years. I started reading about it a year ago and have recently checked a bunch of books out of the library and started doing more research because I realize that I need to be educated about his ADD. Honestly, his coping mechanisms were really good and worked well for a long, long time without treatment. But finally, the stresses of work and kids and money and health crises have taken their toll and his mechanisms aren't working anymore.