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I recently bought Melissa's book and read about this site. I found the book out of desperation, searching on the web. Thank goodness is all I can say! It could save my marriage, but I am scared it may be too late. It is very hard for me to type right now, I can't stop the tears. I guess I just wanted to ask if anyone else felt this way when they first came to this site? Years and years of struggle and to think it was ADHD! My husband was diagnosed almost 2 years ago, when my son was. We have been married 19 years and have 3 teenagers.

Just when I thought things were going great, the proverbial shit hits the fan. We have been getting along really well and I started to let down my guard and feel loved by my husband. Big mistake.

I feel as though my life falls apart everytime my partner is home. Is it fair to say that all i wanted was a normal home? One that consisted of not yelling, breaking things and showing your children that you can be a happy family. Everything seems to be my fault and even when he gets agressive he can become very violent. But again if i were to say exactly what happened he denies it even happened that way, just says that it was my fault i slipped and he never done this. How do you cope?

I am the non-ADHD partner. We moved to Tn in May 2010 and I am finding myself struggling with isolation. I work from home and due the various day to day struggles of having both a spouse and daughter with ADHD just do not have a support group for myself. I am thinking that my best support would be in finding others in relationships with ADHD persons. I would love to try to form a local group to get together in the Rutherford County/Murfreesboro area but am not quite sure as this area seems to be "hush-hush" on this topic.

So, I have no idea if posting this will help at all.  But I need to tell someone and hopefully someone who understands.  

Where to start I am not sure but, here I go.    I am lost, confused, anger, depressed, scared and yet not ready to give up.  

OK, all you nonworriers, give me your best tips!  My older daughter is in trouble at college, a second time that she has messed up and alcohol has been involved.  I will leave out the gory (actually, kind of funny and pathetic) details.  Anyway, how do I, nonADHD parent and spouse, slow down my heart; keep my stomach from roiling; and generally calm my mind to a reasonable extent until Monday, when dear daughter meets with the school's conduct officer?  I have given my daughter good advice, I think, about how to respond:  get help for her alcohol problem!  But I have a feeling that in a few

Does anyone out there have any opinions or thoughts on using cannabis on an as needed basis for certain symptoms? I have found at times I am thinking crystal clear while medicated on cannabis, but also the opposite effect. I only medicate while at home and knowing that I will not be going anywhere for at least 1-2 hours. It is a very good anxiety reliever, but I am more interested in knowing what sort of help it has or has not had for ADHD symptoms. Thanks!

I am recently diagnosed with inattentive-type ADHD and could use a little help from other women (and men!) with ADHD. I'm 37, a wife and mother of 2 boys (7 & 13, oldest had ADHD also). Up until this point, I feel like my life has been mostly successful, however,  much of that has been thanks to a fabulous husband and a relatively high IQ, which usually allows me to compensate for the rest of my shortcomings. There were the usual issues with school (high test scores, low interest) and a checkered job history (several, the longest being 7 years...

I was dating a girl with ADD and one thing that bothered me was that she very often would not say "thank you" or show appreciation for dinners, gifts, doing nice things for her, helping her with her school work, lending her things, etc.  It was something that really bothered me over time because I felt like she was just taking advantage of me and it caused me to close down quiet a bit.  I raised the issue with her and although she acknowledged what I said, she seemed not to really change her ways.  I told her it made me feel like she didn't care about me.

I just want to say that I am very frustrated at America as a whole. This isn't a political post, but this is a societal post. Why are the expectations on people so high to the point that everyone with ADHD must medicate? Manners, etiquette, respect, productivity, professionalism, appearance, organization, emotionless, resilient, patient... The rules that we must maintain at any given moment is overwhelming, complex, and to be frank unnecessary! And everyone knows that the more complex the rules and expectations are, the more likely someone with ADHD is going to have trouble doing it.