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I have been married for 15 years.  We have 4 beautiful children but our marriage is really on the rocks.  While we live under the same roof, we may as well live in separate states.  I am an undiagnosed ADHD male spouse.  My marriage has been struggling for sometime now and I really did not understand why.  I am an educated successful professional, but can not fix the problems in my own home.  I can not tell you how frustrating it is to be a problem solver and can not seem to solve my own problems.  After reading the post on this forum particularly from the non-adhd female spouses, I get it.

Well somehow DH is in action!!!! I find it irritably annoying that he felt the need to dress "UP" smelling like roses and gone out!!! but my question is where did he go??? he said the house is making him sick so he is going to the casino to vent,I asked him if he wanted me to accompany him, he said no!!!

I keep reading posts where the both non-ADD and ADD spouses alike say "it's not the person, it's the ADD".  Who cares?  Why is ADD an excuse for my husband to fight with me over everything, make the most ordinary everyday things a battle that turns into a major altercation?  I'm sick and tired of everything being my fault!  I'm tired of the person who is supposed to love me talking to me like I'm a piece of crap and treating any random person way better than me.  I'm sick of him blurting out rude and inappropriate things in social settings.  I'm tired of him telling everyone things I asked

My ADHD boyfriend can't stop looking at other women when we go out.  Sometimes he barely looks at me.  He also watches a lot of porn.  Does that make a man ogle women?

Would medication help him stop?  Would not looking at porn make him stop ogling women?

I appreciate any advice.

I am engaged to a man with moderate ADHD.  I don't know if that really counts because we haven't been married yet, but after reading Melissa Orlov's book, I felt like my life was in print.  I love my fiance more than words could ever say.  It is the first time I have been in a relationship where I feel respected and loved unconditionally.  Everything started out GREAT at the beginning of our relationship but then we started fighting all the time.  I mean ALL THE TIME.  Our days became measured not by how happy we were each day but if we didn't fight.

I am trying to understand ADD better.  DH has tinnitus.  He says he needs to have the tv AND the radio on different channels loudly all night and all the lights on.   I would think that an ADD person would need the quiet to be calm.  Anyone else need to sleep with noises going on?  Or is this just a tinnitus thing?

My DH has the tendency to continue along the path of destroying our relationship with his (anger issues),I just cannot comprehend as to why he gets sooo mad over"Everything" it is hard and nerve recking enough already to deal with his ADHD, but the anger issues is the main problem with us.one example:

My spouse, who has ADHD, depression, and anxiety, seems to me to once again be floundering.  It became clear to me on one of his rare days at home (he spends several days a week at his elderly parents' home) that his symptoms are interfering with his well-being and functioning:  he is having problems sleeping, he doesn't get anything done when he's at home (I do all the chores), and his room is a mess.

I am happy to read your posts. All the posted it until now by women are married with ADDers, but this is a very important roll in women’s life, to be a MOTHER. My mother in Law it is not diagnosed, but I suspect she has ADD, She basically has the same basic discipline difficulties like my DH. She has difficulties of going to bed early,  waking up, getting up early (after 11 am or later) etc.

A little background:  My husband was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, but was never treated or medicated.  He finally went to a counselor and got on Adderall earlier this week, but I am already at a breaking point.  He took the Adderall for 3 days, said it was making him nervous and stopped taking it.  He now got Concerta called into the pharmacy, but it requires pre-authorization through our insurance so he won't have it until next week some time.  Over the course of our 8 year relationship, married for 5, he has been selfish, mean, verbally abusive, stayed out all night partying after our