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I have become obsessed with the incongruity in life with DH.  Lies, half truths, broken promises, manipulations.  I cannot go on like this. I am embarrassed to myself that I have put up with so much.  I don't know this person I have become. When I was young, I had a secure life with my family.  I am not secure enough to be happy. I am waiting for the next thing that "does not add up" - deception and confusion. 

That's it!!!! over finish!!!!! he took me for granted,ADHD OR NONE,he ruined me,I have been doing everything possible to save my marriage,I put up with his nonsense and he just don't get it!!! he pushed me away this time for good!!! the porn the watching of the women the verbal abuse the time he ruined my birthday,EVERYTHING,I have read books,blogged here,search and search for answers when all he had to do was work on him!!!!!! he never did and still don't want to change!!

Married not even a year but we've been together over four years and I'm fed up with the disrespect and dismissive behavior! He will do things like self medicate and when I attempt to have a conversation with him he reverts to childish and disrespectful behavior. He was anxious waiting for his adhd to be prescribed so he took a friends pill. He said he was worried about us fighting so much and that I'd leave him before he got the pills. I was unhappy about it but was understanding (this isn't the first time) so I attempted to talk to him.

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost one year, and he was diagnosed with ADHD about four years ago. He's been on medication ever since, which seems to really help him focus at his job. His profession is extremely stressful; he's a therapist for adolescents from broken homes and many of them have committed serious crimes. The stuff he hears every day is super, super intense. It's been about one year since my BF got this job, and he's starting to crack under all of the pressure.

I have been married for 15 years.  We have 4 beautiful children but our marriage is really on the rocks.  While we live under the same roof, we may as well live in separate states.  I am an undiagnosed ADHD male spouse.  My marriage has been struggling for sometime now and I really did not understand why.  I am an educated successful professional, but can not fix the problems in my own home.  I can not tell you how frustrating it is to be a problem solver and can not seem to solve my own problems.  After reading the post on this forum particularly from the non-adhd female spouses, I get it.

Well somehow DH is in action!!!! I find it irritably annoying that he felt the need to dress "UP" smelling like roses and gone out!!! but my question is where did he go??? he said the house is making him sick so he is going to the casino to vent,I asked him if he wanted me to accompany him, he said no!!!

I keep reading posts where the both non-ADD and ADD spouses alike say "it's not the person, it's the ADD".  Who cares?  Why is ADD an excuse for my husband to fight with me over everything, make the most ordinary everyday things a battle that turns into a major altercation?  I'm sick and tired of everything being my fault!  I'm tired of the person who is supposed to love me talking to me like I'm a piece of crap and treating any random person way better than me.  I'm sick of him blurting out rude and inappropriate things in social settings.  I'm tired of him telling everyone things I asked

My ADHD boyfriend can't stop looking at other women when we go out.  Sometimes he barely looks at me.  He also watches a lot of porn.  Does that make a man ogle women?

Would medication help him stop?  Would not looking at porn make him stop ogling women?

I appreciate any advice.

I am engaged to a man with moderate ADHD.  I don't know if that really counts because we haven't been married yet, but after reading Melissa Orlov's book, I felt like my life was in print.  I love my fiance more than words could ever say.  It is the first time I have been in a relationship where I feel respected and loved unconditionally.  Everything started out GREAT at the beginning of our relationship but then we started fighting all the time.  I mean ALL THE TIME.  Our days became measured not by how happy we were each day but if we didn't fight.

I am trying to understand ADD better.  DH has tinnitus.  He says he needs to have the tv AND the radio on different channels loudly all night and all the lights on.   I would think that an ADD person would need the quiet to be calm.  Anyone else need to sleep with noises going on?  Or is this just a tinnitus thing?