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Time awareness

I have a question about people with ADD/ADHD and time.  It's often said that people with ADHD aren't aware of time and so don't realize how long it takes to get things done.  Do you think that it's also possible that they don't realize how "short" it takes to get certain things done?  This thought occurred to me just now while I was in the kitchen waiting for some cookies to finish baking.  I staightened up a bit while waiting and thought about one of my routine "while waiting" tasks:  emptying the dishwasher.  I can do most of it in the time it takes my coffee to heat in the microwave.  I

impulsivity

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What is the best way to deal with impulsivity?  It is an impulse when a ADHD spouse keeps going to the same female in his adult life?  If i understand correctly, his first marriage ended because of this female and for all predicable purposes this marriage is over.  He will not talk about this person.  If i bring this person up he shuts down.  I feel nothing will improve unless both parties are open and honest.  After reading Mrs. Orlov book, he has decided to do little things around the house.  That is him trying to make an effort. 

Getting through to my non-ADHD wife

I was diagnosed with ADHD in October last year after I was in the hospital for a suicidal event.  I had a major breakdown when my wife walked out on me, totally destroyed by how I treated her.  I had no clue what was going on, of course, and this site has really helped me understand why our marriage fell apart.

Is this ADHD or just us?

I've been reading these forums for about 2 years now, and have finally registered to post.  My DH hasn't been officially diagnosed, but the therapist we saw when I had PND agreed that he almost certainly has ADD.  In fact she laughed when he asked, and said oh yes.  I'm seeing a pattern in our interactions which I don't seem to be able to break (and which leaves me baffled) and I'm hoping someone here can help me work out if this is ADD or just our relationship.

Can anyone with older children with ADD (or spouses) relate to this work situation?

My 21 year old son has just walked off his new job today.  I am sick!!  It took so long to finally land the job and he was hired out of 200 others.  The job was going to pay him 9.00/hr (a big deal when most only pay 8.00/hr) and it was going to give him a good amount of hours.  He worked yesterday just fine but today his manager said he needed to be doing something differently and, of course, he took it personally with his low self-esteem and it all went downhill from there.  This is the second job it has happened on.  Is there anyone else out there that has experienced this?  I am getting

MY ADHD husband ruined my birthday...

My husband ruined my birthday.I am such a great fool to think that my ADHD husband would love me till death do us part.WELL AREN'T WE ALL.Come on it was the coming week into my birthday, and I am not the type of woman who would say what I want cause I love being surprised, and by god name above I was.It was like most work week, a hard one because my sweet husband won't make things any easier for us with all the accusations and bad comments he always have.If I talk to any MALE person he's always mad, I must not have MALE friends associate myself with them not even on a work level.But he's a

Anyone experienced these with ADHD spouse? Just so tired.

Not sure where I am right now. I love my husband, who was diagnosed with ADHD (takes medication) a few years ago, but I am so tired and frustrated and I find myself angry much more frequently than is healthy. I know it is affecting my children and my ability to parent and be a healthy, happy person. It would really help just to know that there were others out there who have experienced these things, and to know how they dealt with it. We have 2 young children. We live without family close by. We both work, although my job is more demanding and time consuming.

I need help/advice...something..

My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half, we have a 4month old daughter and while I knew my husband was adhd when we got married his true 'teenage ways' did not roar their ugly head until i found out i was pregnant (and this was a surprise since my husband told me he couldnt have kids.. and that is another story in itself as he lies to get what he wants frequently)

my nag list as i like to call it because i HATE nagging but thats all i feel i do anymore.

Where does ADHD stop and responsibility begin?

 

You'll have to forgive me if someone else has posted about this, I however am new and desperate. I have noticed reoccurring problems with my wife and I. She has worked so hard to fix them on her end, and I kept feeling as though she was doing nothing. It kept happening over and over again, and I kept nagging. Then I finally realized the problem is not with her, it's me.

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